My boyfriend yelled at me about something stupid, that had nothing to do with me. I'm angry. This was yesterday; should I hold out for apology or let it go, like usual? I don't want to send the message that I will tolerate that.
2006-11-11 04:41:04 · 17 answers · asked by mzindica 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i suppose it depends on why he yelled,,,was the stupid thing he yelled at you over so stupid it is likely he was upset over something else? this would still require an apology but it would be more understandable,,if this is a regular occurrence i would tell him it is really getting to you that he does this,,if he has something to say you are all ears and if you need to apologize you will but for now,,he either says what it was you were supposed to have done that deserved such treatment or tells you he is sorry for the outburst,,you are right,,learned behavior within a relationship that has effect continues unless one partner puts a stop to it.by letting it go you are saying this treatment is how to handle problems between you,,that this way of speaking to you is fine but if you dont think it is,,say so and mean it,,you dont have to threaten to call it a day to demand some respect.
2006-11-11 04:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He should be a man and respect You and not yell at You. Tell him You expect an apology if You feel You do. You owe him nothing. But as i'm reading this i see You say "as usual" and that You don't want to send a message of "tolerance" it sounds like You already do tolerate it..... Why? Do You yell at him?
2006-11-11 04:48:03 · answer #2 · answered by rpone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to show him that your not going to put up with his attitude. You should most definitely hold for apology. Let him know that he's yelling at you for stupid things and you won't tolerate it any longer. If you ignore it like usual, he'll get in the habit of thinking it's ok to lose his tepmer about small things.
2006-11-11 04:46:51 · answer #3 · answered by Xx Spookz xX 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it worth holding out for? What if he doesn't apologize? Then you'll be harboring resentment, which isn't good. Depending on the situation, you determine whether an argument over something you even admitted was stupid, is worth still being angry over? Pick your battles carefully hun. Let him know that you won't tolerate his attitude, and him yelling at you, and then leave it at that.
2006-11-11 04:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by LibraT 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good, you shouldn't tolerate it. He was probably having a bad day or something, if I were you I'd ignore him and hold out for an apology. You're a strong woman. =]
2006-11-11 04:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you let it go? Are you so weak a character?. Of course, you should get an apology. If he keeps doing that to you, then you should not stay around and keep getting abused, even if he'd apologize.
2006-11-11 04:45:45 · answer #6 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring it up today. Wait until you're both calm, maybe joking with eachother, and remind him of yesterday's explosion. Let him know that it's cool if he's upset about other things, but that you're not cool with him taking out that anger on you. He needs to learn how to direct his anger at the things that are actually the source.
By taking it out on you, he's not only pushing away someone who can help him deal with it, but he's also not dealing with the real source of the anger to help him alleviate it!!
2006-11-11 04:46:05 · answer #7 · answered by NYC Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a matter of letting it go. But to me it has to do with communicating, you need to pull him up on this, ask him why he yelled at you like that, say it upset me very much. He would not have to apologize, but I would want him to tell me what I had to do with him shouting at me like that! Say I respect you, and I want you to respect me. So please talk to me with respect!
2006-11-11 04:51:55 · answer #8 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how long you all have been together.. and if this happens alot... if it happens alot then it will prob happen again.. and if you dont want to put up with it.. dump him.. but if it was out of character for him.. maybe he was just having a bad day or something was bothering him... maybe he needs you to be there for him but just doesnt know how to tell you.. because face it he's the male gender and they dont know how to express themselves well....
2006-11-11 04:45:55 · answer #9 · answered by hopelessly_in_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick your battle wisely, there will be some that you need to win, so save some for that. If it is really important to you, you should address the situation. All good relationships have good communication.
2006-11-11 04:45:16 · answer #10 · answered by nothing anymore 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋