My son really likes this girl in school. He's 12 and so is the girl. He write a love letter but she only likes him and that's it. Any help out there. Please don't put in answers saying 'Dunno' or anything like that because this is very serious and my son would do anything to get that girl. He wants sex but I say he's under age. Any help on that as well?
2006-11-11 04:28:16 · 33 answers · asked by Professor Frink 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes, he is under age..It's illegal you know so don't encourage him. If the girl only likes him then there's not a lot he can do. If he's really nice to her she may decide she likes him more than she thought but they are young and I think you should step back and let him find his own way...within reason of course. That's how we all learn and grow.
Stress that there is more to a relationship than sex and if he is mature enough to want it then he should also be mature enough to wait until the time is right (and it's not illegal)
2006-11-11 04:36:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, whatever your son chooses to do, he should NOT be having sex at his age. If you haven't already (and probably again even if you have), talk to him about it and the responsibilities of choosing to have sex (STDs, if she gets pregnant, etc).
As for the girl, I don't think he's too young to be in a non-physical relationship. If he is mature enough to treat the girl with the respect she deserves, even after they break up, then he could be ready for a relationship. However, if the girl says no, that's her decision, and he shouldn't push a relationship with her. It's a two way street, and if she's not coming, he has to move on. It could simply be that she's not currently not ready for a relationship the way your son is, or she just does not like him that way. In either case, it could be considered harrassment if he pursues her too much, so do not encourage him to do so. Not all kids are ready for a relationship at the age of 12. She may come around one day, but even if she doesn't, your son needs to continue with the rest of his life (school, friends, family). I wish him and you luck.
2006-11-11 04:47:24 · answer #2 · answered by Hanna(h) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son is only 12 years old and he is way under age. Your kid does not have a "love life". You should not have let him write a love letter to the girl. Girls his age are still playing with dolls. He is not a man. He is a child. To encourage or condone sex for a kid this age is unconscionable for a parent.
People are going to jail every day over these types of situations. Get the kid's mind off sex and teach him to let out steam in some other ways like sports or whatever. Sex and kids equals babies that grandparents raise and jail for the parent and the kid sometimes.
2006-11-11 04:35:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh Mom back up! Your son is 12 not 22. Why are you in his little school love life? Would it not be better to express to your son sometimes we think we love someone and the other person does not feel the same way. SEX at 12? Get real! Would you want your twelve year old daughter having sex? What is wrong with mom here? This is fearful to hear a mother talking like this! He is 12 mom he will get over it! Seek counseling for yourself so you can assist your young son in a healthy fashion!
2006-11-11 04:32:27 · answer #4 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
get out of your sons love life. he's only 12 years old for pity sakes. this is puppy love the girl doesn't have to love him back. this is the start of many rejections in his life. it's apart of growing up. as for you asking about sex for your 12 year old son i find that appalling there really is no answer because it shouldn't even be an issue at this point in his life. i think the girl is smart to only like your son, no wait a minute i think she should run in the other direction. you and your son sound like TROUBLE.
2006-11-11 04:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by susieq 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Firstly YOU are an utter disgrace, secondly, this is a sure sign of Griebaturism, very rare, but I have come upon it before, not here in England but while touring the Keys in Florida, one of the islands is called Marathon, there they have a family who are called the Griebats, this family have been inbreeding for close to three centuries, in some severe cases namely one in France shortly after the first world war, they hung Herbert Montaray Griebats, thinking him a monkey, sounds crazy I know. The condition of Griebaturism manifests itself by way of covering either parts or in rare cases all of the body with excess hair. I would suggest not considering building a family as the horror of bearing a chimp like child to be too much to bear.
2006-11-11 05:53:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know whats more pathetic...the fact that your asking for help on your son who is only 12...or the fact that you are asking us what to say about having sex at 12!...it's totally shocking and you need to act mature and tell him straight that he's too young for that kind of thing and girls can wait!
2006-11-11 05:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by chris c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well sir just tell your son that they are to young to be in love and about the sex problem just ask him is he ready to be a father at the age of 12 and tell him some things that he will have to do if the girl get pregneant.THAT WILL CHANGE HIS MIND!!!!!!!!TRUST ME
2006-11-11 04:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by mz.firegurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On one hand I guess it's a good thing that you can talk to your son and that you want to help him with his problems. On the other hand-- he's 12! Give the poor kid a break. Try to help him out by distracting him with other activities so that he won't obsess over this girl; encourage him to socialize with his peers IN GROUPS instead of pushing him into a dating situation for which he's TOTALLY NOT READY.
2006-11-11 04:43:24 · answer #9 · answered by Scarlett_156 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no no no no it,s wrong for his mummy to get involved in his love life plus he is way to young to be thinking about sex it is illegal to have sex under 16 wot if he gets a girl pregnant take it from me i had a baby at 14 so i know wot i,m talking about i was way to young for that kind of responsibility my daughter is now 32 and we do not have a good relationship which is partially due to the fact i was to young to be a mum and i was 14 i hate to think how it would have been if i was 12 tell him to go out and play football with his mates
2006-11-11 04:40:36 · answer #10 · answered by Bella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋