I am super frustrated with my bf. I think it comes down to the fact that I let him get away with everything and in the last 5 years. I have never heard him say I am sorry, nor have I gotten really mad him. This is because when I want to talk to him about something I think he has done wrong, he gets upset, starts to yell, covers his eyes and goes to sleep.
This weekend, was his friends birthday which lands on the same day as this other girl I don't get along with. (Long story there). Well my bf has never taken my side with this girl EVER. Anyhow, he took her out for dinner with his friend, told me I couldn't come. Then he told me he would come home after dinner or call me. He did neither. No Call and didn't come home til 4AM. He didn't even take his cell. Then he yells at me becuase I told him I think he could have borrowed someones phone to call me. He told me it was to loud in the room to call me..
I think what hurts me the most is he told me I couldn't come with him.
2006-11-11 04:25:41 · 25 answers · asked by adrienne k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why would you want to go with him? The guy walks all over you. Are you a doormat? You sound like one.
He doesnt listen to you.
He gets away with everything.
He never sides with you.
He leaves you out and goes to dinner with another girl.
What is in this relationship for you? He has it made while you get nothing.
You need some assertiveness training and to dump this loser and find yourself a man who will cherish you.
2006-11-11 04:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be concerned about it. If he is interested in starting a life with you, then why is he keeping things from you? A relationship is suppose to be about trust and communication. It doesn't sound like he is doing either with you. Who is this girl? Is she an old girlfriend? An old friend? A co-worker? How does he know her? Where did he meet her? It doesn't matter he called her up and put her on speaker phone. Anyone could have been on the other line, and not necessarily this girl. Even if it was this girl, she could just as easily down play things for your benefit. I would really think about this relationship. Oh and why is he just talking to you guys about marriage and not actually proposing? You need to have someone in your life is more respectful of you.
2016-03-28 02:23:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, what I don't understand is why are you still with him. Stop stressing yourself and relieve yourself from that jerk. Your partner, in a relationship, should always enjoy your company, especially when he's out celebrating "whatever" he's out there celebrating. It's definately NOT right for him to celebrate this other girl's birthday party. How dare he take her out knowing how you feel about her. He disrespected you by going against your feelings towards her. That bastard! Also, how dare he not call you and then get angry with you for no good reason. GIRL, LEAVE HIM! HE'S NO GOOD FOR YOU. HE'S NOT A BOY-FRIEND MATERIAL. He doesn't love you the right way, so don't stress yourself over him. Your life would be a lot simpler without him. Believe me. You may still say, "But I love him." Don't let your love for him get in the way. Still leave him. Love makes a person do crazy things. So don't let your love for him destroy your life. You need your life to live...without him. Keep yourself occupied by doing something you enjoy doing. There are schools you can go to and learn to do something you can be greatful for. Take swimming lessons, read a good book, take a self-defense class...anything. Go dancing with your friends/relatives. Enjoy life....without him. You deserve better. In time, you'll find someone new and hopefully you don't let him step all over you. Don't let anyone get away with anything. ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! You have to end it, now.
2006-11-11 04:42:48 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay i think you let him take over your life too much. It seems to me you let him walk all over you, you let him do whatever he wants. If you are really agaisnt something you would show true feelings against it. And i think that he is so used to getting his way that if he asked you to take a week off from eachother that you'd be okay with it. You need to show 'em who's boss girl and let him know that you are in the relationship for a reason. Not to get trampled on by some asshole which is personally what i think he is doing. Yeah he wouldnt let you go. boo hoo. But if you have been together for what, 5 years, trust is the first thing that comes into the picture. If any guy wanted to cheat they would have broke it off with you honey, so dont worry about that. Just let him know you cant let him treat you like that. And if its going to be like that then you odnt know how long you can last.
good luck hun!
2006-11-11 04:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by aricalyn10<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you still with him? He doesn't take your feelings into consideration at all. You need to ask yourself one thing. Do I want to be treated like this for the rest of my life with this boy? Cuz that is what he is. If the answer is yes then there is no helping you. If the answer is no then you need to move on. It will be hard at first but why settle for a unhappy relationship when you can find someone who wants YOU in their lives and invites YOU along to these things. Read what you wrote to us again and you will see that you actually answered your own question without realizing it. Sometimes you need to see it before you can understand it. Good luck with finding your new exciting relationship that will make YOU happy.
2006-11-11 04:41:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the only thing that hurts you is him telling him you couldn't come, I think you need to analyze the ENTIRE situation. I dont think this is a healthy relationship in the least. You desire FAR BETTER and trust me, a TRUE and HONEST bf would NEVER treat you like that, would never tell you you are not invited unless, of course, he is hiding something. Which, it sounds to me like he is having his cake and eating it too. Please, think about this guy before getting extremely serious. Best of luck.
2006-11-11 04:33:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have spent 5 years with this jerk? Why on earth are you wasting your time and talent? You need to kick this one to the curb and find yourself a guy that will treat you with respect, caring and kindess. You wouldn't want a guy to treat your daughter this way so why is okay for him to treat you like this?
Move on dear....it will be hard...breaking bad habits always are...just keep this in mind... If you wouldn't tolerate someone doing whatever to your children do not tolerate them doing it to you.
2006-11-11 04:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's your place, kick him to the curb. He's not a boyfriend. He's a dictator. Emphasis on d i c k.
If it's not your place, find a gal pal, and make room mates with her. You deserve better honey.
Get rid of this guy. Get over him. Remove the welcome sign from across your back, grow some backbone, then go out and find a real man!
2006-11-11 04:33:31 · answer #8 · answered by Cady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't a question you need to ask, because you already know the answer. 5 years of not being able to express your thoughts without worrying about his reaction ... do you honestly think it will change for the better? It won't.
You're allowing yourself to be taken advantage of and taken for granted. If he knows he can do what he likes and you'll sit idly by waiting for his return, nothing will stop him from doing it again and again and again .... and worse.
No one needs to tell you this person isn't worthy of your time and affections. You already know that.
2006-11-11 04:29:52 · answer #9 · answered by Jaded 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HIM! best of luck... might be hard since u have been with him 4 a long time but hes treating u wrong and it will be worth it in the end!
2006-11-11 04:30:17 · answer #10 · answered by lala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋