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all my friends talk bout how great sex is and how i should it. this has been going on since middle school and now i'm a freshman. they have even lined up guys for me and they even call me the virgin mary. so not funny. what should i do? i need at advice. help please. anybody.

2006-11-11 04:25:34 · 27 answers · asked by Felicia D 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

27 answers

All of your friends are whores. Tell all of their parents to bring them to Saudi Arabia and sew up their *****. heh

2006-11-11 05:01:07 · answer #1 · answered by acuity007 4 · 0 0

Sex as a teenager is more to say you did it than you enjoyed it. It's about "fitting in". Teenage boys are incredibly unskilled lovers and for you, it won't be all that enjoyable.

Don't feel bad about your choice. If you know of a guy being harassed for the same issue or someone you're good friends with, then make a pact with him to say that you've had sex when in reality you haven't. That way your friends will get off your back hopefully.

And if they tease you abt being Virgin Mary.. be a b*tch and come back with "at least my p*ssy's still tight. I heard that having sex with you is like throwing a hot dog down a hallway". To be honest, these girls aren't your friends if they're relentlessly harassing you. I would take a guess that perhaps they feel guilty about the choices they've made and they want you to be as equally slutty and/or guilty. You're in a difficult situation and it may be time to become friends with other people.

2006-11-11 12:32:23 · answer #2 · answered by GoddessofCoughSyrup 4 · 2 0

WOW, so many answers, so much rhetoric. As a man who became a parent way too early, I can tell you that sex isn't a decision to go into lightly. Don't listen to your friends, rather, listen to your own heart. All of this "save yourself for marriage" hooey is really just people trying to espouse their religious beliefs. Sex is a normal and healthy thing for all people that are sexually mature, and if you are 15 or so, you're about there. Here is the question you really need to ask yourself, and answer honestly. Am I ready for this?
What I mean If you do decide to have sex, be sure that you are comfortable with the person you're going to share yourself with. Hopefully this part goes without saying, but I'm going to say it anyways, if you are going to have sex, please use protection. Sexually transmitted diseases are on the rise among young people including HIV.
I hope that this doesn't sound too preachy, and I wish you well.

2006-11-11 13:00:18 · answer #3 · answered by mike w 4 · 0 0

NOOOOOOOOO,

Keep the one thing that is special to you for as long as you can...
If the man is really caring, and loving, you both can spend time together and fulfill each other to a higher enjoyment, just by taking your time and enjoying each others company and playing around with each other...
It is the man's responsibility to make sure you are fulfilled first, and if he knows what he's doing, intercourse won't come into play. Trust me, I know and haven't had any complaints... : )

That is something that should be enjoyed if both people are ready to except the fact, that if a baby is created, you are making a comment to God that this child will brought up in love... If your not ready for that comment, then find some other way to please each other.... SEX is not everything,,,, and if you think about it, it's only about 3% of any relationship... Do the math.... But loving and caring for each other, now that is more important that anything...

Teach your partner to respect you, and agree that you both will be strong when the ohter is weak... Enjoy

2006-11-11 12:37:51 · answer #4 · answered by caasos 1 · 0 0

I think your friends are crazy. No it's not kiddish! They're then kiddish! Don't care about what they say. It's your life and you live according to the way you want it to be. Virgins are even rare to find in such days, so you shd even safe it more for your marriage. You shd have more self-control and respect for that. Guys are will be very happy to find their mates still a virgin. So that makes you as rare as precious stones. Your friends are teasing you because you're still a virgin but that doesn't mean you've to break your own rules and follow what they want you to do. Remember that you lead your own life, not them! In fact, I respect you even more that you're still a virgin!!! Be proud that you're still one! Don't be put off by your friends! Sometimes people are little envious that you're still a virgin, that's why they're teasing you. So don't fall into their traps so easily!!! Only have sex when you're ready to do with your loved one or you've the urges to do so. Don't be silly and do it for the sake of others! Respect yourself ok?

2006-11-11 12:37:11 · answer #5 · answered by PoshBerries 6 · 0 0

Don't listen to what they say. If only I could go back then and wait. Just because your friends have had sex does not mean that you need to. Your virginity should be something that you hold sacred and you'll never be able to get it back once you've lost it. Wait until YOU are ready and YOU have the person who you want to have sex with. Don't think lightly of it, that is a special thing and just because they threw theirs away doesn't mean you have to too. They're probably just mad because they threw their virginity away to someone who threw them away after having sex with them so they want you to feel the same way as they do, used.

If they keep on bothering you about it, tell them what I said above and tell them that just because they threw something precious away doesn't mean that you're going to make the same stupid mistake. Also tell them to stop prostituting you out, what the hell is that lining up guys to have sex with you! If they can't respect that then they don't need to be your friends. Be strong and stick to your beliefs and don't give into the peer pressure.

I applaud you for having the courage to do what you want to do and not what everyone wants you to do! Good for you, I hope that my 13 yr old will have the same courage as you!

2006-11-11 12:37:33 · answer #6 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 1 0

My guess is that they are lying. I would hope that students in middle school aren't having sex. Even if they are, I applaud you for not having sex yet. Wear your virgin status with honor. If you give up your virginity to some random guy in high school, how will you feel about yourself....both now and later if you end up with a guy you really love and end up marrying? Hang on. Wait. I know it's hard at the moment with peer pressure......but don't let them pressure you into something you're not comfortable with. You're too young to be having sex. Are you ready for the emotional, intellectual, spiritual, etc responsibilities that come with it and its results? Concentrate on being a student right now. Work hard. And wait for sex until a later day.

2006-11-11 12:33:16 · answer #7 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0 0

You're not kiddish, and they're not mature. They're all sluts. Wait until you're ready to have sex, and don't let them bring you down just because you were smart enough to wait this long. As for the guys they've lined up for you, go out with them if you want, but make sure to go home ALONE.

2006-11-11 12:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

You need new friends hun. They don't want you to have sex in order to make you happy, they want you to do it to bring you down to their level. Sex is wonderful. But it carries a lot of responsibility and consequences. You have something that none of your friends have, your virginity. Wouldn't you rather save that gift for someone you love and want to spend your life with? Find friends who respect your values. You must decide on what terms to live your life. Never let other people decide how you will live it.

2006-11-11 12:43:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

No it isn't "kiddish". It's called being smart. You're the only one of you and your friends who can say that you haven't had sex. I believe thats awsome. I say if they keep pressing you to have sex with someone,you need to find some new friends. You just keep up being a good,smart girl.

2006-11-11 12:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by bobbie m 1 · 1 0

Don't you ever ever listen to them... sex is only great and meaningful when you do it with the person you want to share you life with (your husband), other wise we would be like animals that follow their desires blindly. So wait till you're prepared and never get influenced.. that they are "many" doesn't mean that they are "right"... you are "right" and you should be proud of them.

try to be mature, thoughtful and think deep about every step you take - you'll never end up happy with child (maybe from a stranger) on your shoulder.. while you are a child yourself!

2006-11-11 12:33:44 · answer #11 · answered by o.s. 4 · 1 0

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