How this became your job is a mystery.
Use Pavlovian methods and be guarded as well NOT to react in any way when she does.
Children at this stage are victims of attention and the need to have it and control it is strong. If you walk away from her or turn away when she says the bad words. Observe if she reacts to the withdrawal of stimuli - you.
Indians or Native Americans are said to have ignored their children when they cried for attention. The affect was to make crying ineffective in getting attention and encouraged speaking.
Similarly you must use your time together to determine what may be triggering the use of these words. She may be watching TV unattended and listening when she is being ignored.
Being religious doesn't save you from having any of the problems or troubles which would affect anyone else. They cannot control what is heard by the child except when they are around.
Remember too this is a cousin; you may not have the influence you need to help. Perhaps you need to forget they are religious and ferret out where the words are coming from.
Substitution is good too. Bill Cosby used to say, "gunky" in his routines and it was more commonly as 'poop' or 'poo', to be polite. In more scientific terms feces.
Make your cousin say her words again using the replacement word. Smile and giggle or otherwise offer an emotional stimulation to show you are grateful when she does. Stay observant it yields the most clues.
Enjoy and good luck!
2006-11-11 05:14:57
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answered by KnowSean 3
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How about telling as many people the child is around, NOT TO USE THAT WORD in front of her. For starters, parents need to really watch the things they say and what others say. At 3 the child is still a little too young to "explain" anything to...but it needs to stop!
2006-11-11 05:52:34
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answered by Norcalmom 2
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This three yr old is looking for attention even if it is negative attention.
Simply ignore this word and and do not make a fuss.Kids love having a fuss made over them.Let him/her know that there are no bad words but words that make people feel sad. That word makes some people feel sad and if you say that word, i will not answer you. I know you can speak like a big boy/girl.
If the word comes up again- and it will simply ignore it. When the child begins to fuss, remind him/her that she/he can use different words to ask whatever.Do not answer the question until it is asked properly.
2006-11-11 05:11:21
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answered by Cammie 7
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Tell her every time she says it that it is not ok. After you tell her that put her in time out for 3 minutes. When you take her out tell her again that it's not ok and if you hear her say it again she will go in time out for 3 minutes. Try it for a day or so and if doesn't do the trick sometimes a little hot sauce on the tongue will get the point across.
2006-11-11 04:40:37
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answered by CHARITY S 2
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She had to have learned it for somewhere, you need to tell her that is a bad word, at the age of 3 she should understand what your talking about,ever time she say it put her in time out,eventually she'll get tired of being in the corner.
2006-11-11 07:15:52
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answered by This is just my opinion! 4
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could desire to? in case you do not say it-then she is. Her habit with out asserting the word could scare me. My babies are actually not suited yet they on no account spoke to me that way-EVER. It merely wasn't allowed. I continually used the only million-2-3 count quantity approach in discipline and that i admit (and don't sense undesirable in any respect) that they have got been given swats whilst small. you may stop her habit now till now it gets worse. additionally-i does not be too happy approximately the different daughters and their pals. in case you do not take administration then you certainly lose administration. My childrens (and that i) probable be attentive to each undesirable word in the e book-I call them expressway words-HA. we live in So Ca although. we don't use them as verbs in in many circumstances going on language. To me it make you sound low classification,decrease priced and uneducated and thats the ideas-set that i've got raised my babies on. attempt time outs and counting-be rapid in what you do and don't permit her talk lower back. you are the parent-they're the newborn. do not bypass right down to their point-whilst they pay the expenditures and proceed to exist on their very own-then they make the regulations. sturdy success! all of us bypass in the time of the loopy circumstances.....
2016-10-17 03:28:05
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answered by ? 4
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Explain that the word is not a nice word to use and that you don't approve. If that doesn't work, I would probably put him/her in timeout for 3 minutes every time they do it.
2006-11-11 04:30:15
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answered by Sarah R 2
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THERE ARE SOME INDIVIDUALS WHO ARE SO RELIGIOUS THAT BEHIND CLOSED DOORS THEY DO CURSE AND DO OTHER THINGS. BUT THAT'S BETWEEN THEM AND GOD. BABIES PICK UP ANYTHING THAT'S SAID AND DONE AROUND THEM. SHE HAD TO HEAR IT FROM SOMEONE. JUST CONTINUE TO TELL HER THAT SHE IS NOT SUPPOSE TO SAY THAT WORD BECAUSE IT'S BAD. GIVE HER A NEW WORD AND TELL HER TO SAY THAT WORD BECAUSE THE OTHER ONE WILL GET HER INTO TROUBLE.
2006-11-11 04:33:07
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answered by PRECIANA 4
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Completely ignore her. She sees that its getting her attention everytime she says it and thats exactly what she wants. So when she says it again, DONT do anything. More than likely she'll see that its not getting her the attention that she wants and she'll do something else to get peoples attention.
2006-11-11 06:50:06
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answered by PfcsBaby 5
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well, there's one thing for sure, she's hear the word somewhere. Keep putting her in time out, and each time she repeats the word make the time out longer.
2006-11-11 04:29:38
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answered by ? 1
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