question for wives,is it wrong to ask your wife to sleep with another man to spice up your love life?

Answer 1

Yes, if that was not something you guys were into before you got married. What if the other man is better then you? What if you start something the she ends up enjoying way to much, and then it just ends up being her and the other man without you. I say if you guys were into this before you got married then go for it. If not be careful what you are asking for. Good luck.

Answer 2

Well the question in itself is not wrong, cos anything goes between consenting couples if its legal and not hurting anyone. YOU know your wife..... is she likely to find the idea a turn on or not? It would be much better to explore your fantasies just by talking about things and see how she reacts.

Also you have to explore the reasons why you think your wife sleeping with another man will spice up your love life. It might spice it up, i suppose or it could totally destroy it. What if your wife preferred the other man?

By the way, i imagine that if you have to ask this question, then you do in your heart of heart know that your wife is not interested in such a thing.

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Answer 3

Of course, it's wrong! How can you ask your wife to sleep with other man to spice up the love life? Are your crazy, sick or what? How can you bear to see your beloved wife to do such a thing? Unless she asks or wants for it. But you can also stop her from doing so. Don't tell me you'll not get jealous or upset to see her making out with another guy? Maybe you'll not now, coz she hasn't done it yet. But can you be very sure you'll not be agitated or jealous when she does it? Pls think carefully before doing something you'll eventually regret. I know this is your fantasy and seeing your wife making out with someone else seems explictly exciting. But let me give you the worst scenario, next time she rathers have sex with another or other men than you coz maybe the other guy does a better job than you. And she'll think of having affairs in the end. Is that what you want? Don't be silly to ask her to such a thing which can jeopardise your marriage and sex life!!!

Answer 4

That all depends on your relationship. If you both have good communication and are very much in love and are not the jealous types then it won't hurt to ask. I take it that she may need more then you are able to give her if you are willing to have another man get involved. If the two of you do decide to try it don't make the mistake of including a friend. That will only cause problems. There are alot of swing groups out there. You both should look into it. But if she says no way then drop it. And ask her what can you do to spice things up. Good luck.

Answer 5

Yes, anything that severs the marital accord is not good for the relationship of the two married people. "Spicing up" the love life can have some very undesirable side effects and might lead to diseases or the wife falling in love with someone other than the husband: a dangerous practice.

Answer 6

Do you want to watch them or participate? If you do ask her could you cope with the jealousy of seeing her or her being with someone else? It could destroy your whole relationship.
I have heard watching your partner have sex with someone else (voyeurism) is supposed to be a turn on but I can't think of anything worse than seeing my partner with someone else. It's like giving her permission to cheat.
There is also the other side of things that she might think that you do not love her because you want her to have sex with someone else. Or you could think that because she had sex with someone else that it gives you the right to cheat, or you could think less of her for sleeping with someone else. There are so many things to think of with a scenario like that you have to be so sure of your own mind and your wives before you even suggest something like that.
I often fantasise about having a three some with my husband and another man but the reality would be some thing I am not prepared for and probably couldn't cope with.
A friend of mine was swinger but only after her marriage broke down but, she quit when she got a boyfriend. A lot of married couples go into this but again I would seriously think about the concequenses of your actions. It is very likely that your marriage will not survive this.

Answer 7

that all depends. have you been talking with her about trying new things? if not then it may be a bit out of the blue, so maybe you should approach the issue by spicing it up, but starting off with something less dramatic. then, if she is agreeable bring it up as a possible option. but remember that she may not be up for it, which means you should back off from the idea.
but also, think about whether or not it would be better left as a fantasy. it might be good in your head, but in reality it would be your wife with another man, and once its happened you wont be able to take it back!

Answer 8

absolutely! If you want to spice your sex life then you & your wife need to talk about it. But telling her to sleep with another man is absolutely wrong.

Answer 9

It depends on your wife's attitude really, but if you have to ask then you are not sure which probably means, in terms of your relationship with your wife, Yes it is wrong!

Answer 10

definately. cos its u who needs to spice up your love life its not the other person . So u take the initiative and love ur wife.
if ur a person who has such ideas God help what u would do if she would not be around