There is this guy I'm dating. It is kind of a LDR, we live like a two hour drive apart. Well we got together and had sex for the first time on Wednesday night and he seemed like he really really liked me then. Then on Friday we sent like five or six emails back and forth to each other, just chatting. We just kept replying to each other's emails and sending more all day. I asked him if he wanted to get together on Monday and he wrote back and said it depends on when because he already had plans that night with his friends. So I wrote back last night and said basically that I understood he was busy, etc, and it was okay if we didn't get together. Now he hasn't reponded yet. Did I come on too strong? Do I need to back off a little?
2006-11-11 04:02:29 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
P.S. I know he read my email because my email program told me. Usually he responds right away to my emails.
2006-11-11 04:03:34 · update #1
No you did nothing wrong. What you did was tell him that you were okay with not getting together. He has the answer so no need to respond. He very well could be busy.
If the man had sex with you and your still talking......you have other things you need to worry about because this is not one of them.
Remember he had a life before you met. He still does but I think you are safe to assume you are always on his mind.
Do not keep sending him e-mails. Mystery works well for men just as for women. The ball is in his court wait tell he hits it back.
2006-11-11 04:23:13 · answer #1 · answered by John B 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think you should back off a little. I hate to play games but let him miss you, wonder where you are and go from there. I'm not saying don't respond to his emails just don't sit at home waiting for his response. Go hang out with friends and do the usual things. Have fun! If he calls then he wants to spend more time with you. Make sure your LDR isn't all about sex!
2006-11-11 04:10:55 · answer #2 · answered by evesmystique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't come on too strong, if you were only suggesting a get-together. If you push the issue, maybe that's too strong. The ball is in his court, so-to-speak. Let him make the next move. You definitely do not want to sound desperate. Even if you're just dying to see him, give him time. Remember, you each had your own lives before you got together. If he doesn't write back after about a week, drop him a nice hello - with no requests to get together. "just saying hello", is all you should say. Then, if he doesn't write back, he has issues. Good luck!
2006-11-11 04:11:09 · answer #3 · answered by flip4it 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dunno if I'll be much help...please read this anyway...:):)
you say are dating...you do not say anything about a Committed relationship.....you had sex with him, and you are just dating....now...that's totally cool....but...
WHY do women sleep with the guy...without a committment and THEN wonder why they don't call/email you anymore??? i will NEVER understand this.
If you continue to call/email you will scare him away forever. He probably enjoyed your tryst but as expected...is worried you now expect more from him.
SO ladies...if you want to screw without a committment...GO for it...but DON'T blame the guy who got the great end of the bargain when he doesn't call you anymore.
2006-11-11 04:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Shakira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just got tired of emailing back and forth. You're email wasnt a question so it didnt really require an answer.
2006-11-11 04:09:39 · answer #5 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you had sex with him too early in the relationship since he was gotten what he wanted he will not give a reply.And do not go chasing after him .
2006-11-11 04:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by kelvin p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl I'ma tell you like this I don't think you came on too strong. But he probaly think you are being to concerned and he probaly think you are mad at him because ya'll had to cancel ya'll date. No don't back off because when you bavk off he gone think he can always do that to you.
2006-11-11 04:10:56 · answer #7 · answered by mz.firegurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some times a man just need alittle space i can see you guys have a good relationship but sometimes just get him to yourself and others just hangout with him and let him have allitle more room to breathe but just try again to talk to him and maybe make a schedule so he hang out with you & his friends
2006-11-11 04:14:54 · answer #8 · answered by sniperjerrydavis 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Back off completely eithewr he comes back or he dont you win either way
2006-11-11 04:08:50 · answer #9 · answered by Jon R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
2006-11-11 04:06:02 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋