It's a co. department's practice to give monetary donation to co-worker whose family member passed away. I never failed to give or share to such donation. But when my brother died, they ignored such practice. After 2 weeks another co-worker's brother died. Then as if it's compulsory to give monetary help.
2006-11-11 03:48:35 · 16 answers · asked by sim m 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They probably just don't like you
2006-11-11 03:51:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If there is someone who you would feel comfortable asking about this, then ask why you were excluded. It could be something as simple that the person who normally starts the collection wasn't present at work due to sickness or vacation. I can't imagine you being excluded on purpose, especially since you've donated for others in the past. But whatever happened, don't dwell on it and let it turn you bitter. Have fond and loving memories of your brother, and I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-11-11 04:00:13 · answer #2 · answered by sparkie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unprofessional and inappropriate to take collections like that or sell your kid's fund-raising stuff and so forth, especially if it is a company policy. We have announcements of things like a family who has suffered a major loss and need financial help, but the response is as anonymous donations or a large envelope in the office that people can stuff something in or not - never by someone coming around and putting you on the spot - that's wrong.
2006-11-11 03:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by Skeff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd suggest that you go to your supervisor and explain that you think it might be a better idea if the donations were set up to be anonymous. Explain the situation and tell him/her that it makes you uncomfortable.
The Boston Globe had an excellent article, I've given you the link below.
For the record, charity is only charity if it has no reward attached to it, therefore it really has to be anonymous.
My condolences on the loss of your brother.
2006-11-11 04:22:02 · answer #4 · answered by DetroitBrat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there's a possibiliy that somebody else instructed your co-worker which you had suggested some thing undesirable approximately her and now she isn't grown-up adequate to confront you or according to risk this person made her promise that she no longer say what replaced into suggested(in elementary terms a undertaking) What you ought to is go away a observe on her table or deliver her an emailing,saying which you're feeling extremely undesirable that she wont talk to you and it bothers you coz you discover her to be an somewhat candy and heat person,in case you ought to in elementary terms inform you hat you probably did incorrect then you definately ought to apologise and he or she ought to nevertheless forget approximately you if she desires or she could according to risk discover out which you had carried out no longer something incorrect,yet till then there is lots tention and additionally you does not desire to lose her friendship over some thing that could have ben resolved or you atleast could desire to be attentive to why she now no longer desires to be your pal
2016-12-14 05:22:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about your brother..I think it was very insensitive of them..Did they know?? if so, it looks like they did it on purpose and if that's the case i would not donate a single penny to anything in the future,unless you wanted to.. The way they treated you is a cold way to be to a person in time of need..and yes i would be upset at them..
2006-11-11 05:42:46 · answer #6 · answered by Katfish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be mad. I would explain next time you give that you received nothing and all though you do not mind giving, what happened to your part of the monies? Did you mention it? Maybe they just forgot. Anyhow, It's an odd practice. If they don't do it for you, then don't do it for them. Period!
2006-11-11 04:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you a difficult person to get along with? Don't know, just asking. It's not fair that they didn't get something for you when your brother died, but there must be a reason.
2006-11-11 07:46:35 · answer #8 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did they Know about your brother passing?
If so, Go forward and speak to them and let them know how you feel. (In a nice calm matter).
More likely they had no idea about what they did and probably will be very apologetic when they realize what they did. God Bless Love.
2006-11-11 03:54:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe they think you will take offense to it, being that you don't donate.
Don't take it so personal. They are probably trying to respect your decision not to support what they are doing.
2006-11-11 03:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by J~Me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't donate. If someone asks why just tell them.
2006-11-11 03:52:00 · answer #11 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋