Since the first day we met he has been upfront about his relationship. He could have easily not said anything about it -since it is a long distance relationship. He isn't about to break up with her just because he found someone he may be more compatiable with. He has said time and again that he doesn't think things between them are going to work out. Should I stick around or just chalk it up to another loss?
2006-11-11 03:28:09 · 26 answers · asked by xraychick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may be in luck. Honestly, long distant relationships eventually NEVER work out. I would stick around for a while..but i wouldnt be like.." oh come get me,I'm yours!" type of thing. play hard to get. make him WISH he was with you instead of his so called girlfriend that lives farther away..and your only 1 mile. be his friend, talk to him, but dont stay on the couch by the phone, nad wait for him to call you. if he decides he wants to stay with his old g/f. so be it. you dont have to wait for him, when there are PLENTY of men out there. just go out there and find you another one! its all good! dont let one man take over your life. cause its not his, its yours. =]
~Ashley
2006-11-11 03:35:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you are being played. He is giving you conflicting messages that you should be concerned about. Would you really want a guy that doesn't have the guts or the finesse to end one relationship before he starts another? If you like him and want to wait it out, make sure he understands that you are not the kind of girl that dates a two timing guy. You do not want to take part in the breaking of hearts or in his mess. Let him clean it up. Relationships end all the time, just don't be a part of breaking up someone else. Good luck!
2006-11-11 11:35:43 · answer #2 · answered by smwah345 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll tell you something... at least it's only a girlfriend and not his wife. i fell for a guy who is married.. and i didn't find out until a couple nights ago.. but we never really talked about that side of our lives before. which we should have - big mistake on my part.
If he says things aren't going work out between you two, then I'd respect that and move on. Stay his friend if you want but find someone who doesn't have a girlfriend, and wants to have a relationship with you.
utimately the decision is up to you. but this is my opinion.
2006-11-11 11:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hold your breath. Live your life and date other people while they are together. If and when they break up, then you can move in on him. If you do now, he may take advantage and use you for sex but keep the girlfriend. Send him the message that you will only be with him if he is willing to commit to you and no one else, otherwise you will just get used.
2006-11-11 11:32:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh noooooooooooooooooo! He is already committed to someone else regardless if his relationship is long distance or not. If he finds your presence compatible and worth something, he will end his other relationship. In the meantime, don't wait around for someone to decide if they want you or not. You are worth more than that, aren't you? I know this sounds a little harsh but you need to value yourself a little more.
2006-11-11 11:37:19 · answer #5 · answered by evesmystique 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were the girlfriend who has a boyfriend far away, would you want your boyfriend to feel the way this kid is feeling? so NO, don't stick around, theres a reason why he isn't yours in the first place, bc the timing is not right. if you two are destined to be with each other, you will. also take into consideration that if he is willing to do this to his current girlfriend, he doesn't make a very trustworthy b/f , does he?
2006-11-11 11:32:12 · answer #6 · answered by BlueGirl007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should still be his friend, but don't confess yet!
I used to be in a long distance relationship and he broke it off.
I was devastated and turned to alcohol, because he really broke
my heart, and the cause of the brake-up was because of another
girl stepped in. I am okay now, that was 15 years ago.
But I never forgave him for what he did to me.
2006-11-11 11:35:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sabine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is not willing to break up with the girl for you, he doesn't think you are worth his commitment. As harsh as this may seem, its true. Look at it this way, if you stick around, he'll be thinking that you have no problem being his standby girl. You dint want that now, do you?
2006-11-11 11:34:58 · answer #8 · answered by Javon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember the Golden Rule Do unto others as youwould have others Do unto YOU.What goes around comes around . It could be you the next time he finds someone he clicks with
2006-11-11 11:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by Jon R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. If he really wanted you he would let the other woman go and be with you. Sounds like he wants to keep his options open. You have to know your worth and accept nothing but the best because that is what you deserve.
2006-11-11 11:39:16 · answer #10 · answered by Ronald 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋