So, I am getting married and my sister is pregnant. We are haivng the wedding after the baby is born since my sister is the matron of honor. My mom wants to have my bridal shower at the same time as my sister's baby shower. Am I wrong for not wanting to share - my sister didn't have to share her bridal shower with anyone.
2006-11-11 03:23:46 · 17 answers · asked by TML 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Two completely different showers please. Your shower is for you, it's your special time to be the "bride".. Your sister even deserves to be the "mother". I understand the "whys" but no I think you are so right.
What's your Mom's number? I will call her and talk with about it. You both are experiencing the best parts of being a woman. You deserve to both be special for each occassion, and that deserves two parties not a combo deal. Combo deals are for fast food joints, not important times in your life.
Your sister needs her stork and teddy bear decorations. You deserve the wedding decorations, bells, hearts, and romance not pink and blue booties on your cake. I hope Mom can understand it might be easier to have one shower, but it would be worth the extra trouble to have 2- one for the expectant mother, and one for the Bride.
God bless us all.........
ps..I hope you have the most wonderful wedding day possible. Years and years of love and happiness.
2006-11-11 04:23:31 · answer #1 · answered by totallylost 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you arent wrong for not waiting to share your bridal shower with your sister or anyone for that matter.
Its something for YOUR BIG DAY and you shouldnt have to share it with someone else. Plus your sister is haveing a baby if it was both bridalshower or baby shower then MAYBE but not when they are 2 totally different things.
I just had my bridal shower and I didnt want my soon to be sister in law there because she just had a baby and she always making things ALL ABOUT HER so I knew she would do that at my shower. YES I did invite her, but cuz my soon to be hubby told her that her children werent invited she didnt come and says shes not attending the wedding either because of it!
We have 2 daughters ourselfs and they are in the wedding party and werent at my shower so why should my sister in law bring her kids!
Best of luck!!!!!
2006-11-11 11:31:30 · answer #2 · answered by Just ME!!! 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't share. You only get one Bridal Shower and your sister only gets one Baby Shower. Your mother should understand that. If she can't get that, then maybe some friends could throw you your bridal shower.
2006-11-11 11:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by KC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong my dear, you have the right to want your bridal shower just for yourself, it's supposed that you only married once in a life but you can have as many kids as you want so there will be more baby showers but you're only gonna have one wedding, besides, is not your mother's wedding, is yours. Make both celebrations separately, they're for different reasons plus you can have double fun!
Ah, Congratulations for your wedding!
2006-11-11 11:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by electric_girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds as if she may need to save money for both so she's thinking of having them at the same time... I don't blame you for not wanting to share & other family members, Aunts , Uncles Cousins, friends may not agree as well
YOu've already comprised once to hold off the wedding till after the baby comes... Stick with your gut..
It's okay to feel this way- your sister would probably agree with you- since chances are this is her 1st child- she may not want to share- either
2006-11-11 11:29:18 · answer #5 · answered by bugz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have to share, its suppose to be only once you get your bridal shower. Tell your mom how u feel, don't have any regrets this is your special time.
Congratulations and God Bless!!
2006-11-11 11:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your not wrong for wanting your own shower. and doesnt ur sister want her own shower also. it its the money thing that is making your mom want to combine them you can do beautiful showers for not alot of money, not everything has to be grand. and also i would point out to ur mom that combineing the showers is more pressure on guest to get two presents and what if u want some one there that is not close to ur sister are they expected to buy her a gift also.
2006-11-11 11:36:09 · answer #7 · answered by angelface8074 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong at all...and it is actually rude, for you and your guests, to have both showers at once. Let your sister have her time and you should have yours...tell your mom how you feel and let her know that it is something that shouldn't be shared.
2006-11-12 15:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is throwing the shower? It's you and the hostess' decision as top what type of shower and when. Also, showers should not be hosted by family members.
2006-11-12 00:10:26 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong for not wanting to share.
Your mother is worried about throwing two showers, but nobody says she has to throw both of them. Can someone else throw one of them?
2006-11-11 11:29:37 · answer #10 · answered by Computer Guy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋