Need of help, my b/f says i am always nagging him cause i wont let him go anywhere and dont trust him (trust not there cause he has lied to me in the apst and has done drugs) He is 26, does not work and only thing i ask him to do is take out the trash and put my youngest daughter on the bus. I work 5 days a week m-f 8-4, i feel when i get home he should be homehe has all that free time during the day. I support him myself and 2 kids. He says its my fault that he has resorted to drugs. every time we fight its alsways my fault. I do not want him to hang out with certain people cause they are loser and i thik that he goes the wrong way when he hangs out with them. Am i being a bad g/f or what
2006-11-11 02:55:03 · 8 answers · asked by njchic1025 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you are not being a bad girlfriend. On the contrary, you are a good girlfriend. Wanting to change your boyfriend. But to be honest, you cannot change a person. You don't want him to hang out with people who has bad influence, perhaps you should care for yourself more. Are you with someone who is a bad influence? You have two children to think about and you want someone who these two kids can look up to. I think you are doing the right thing because you are a woman who can handle live and you naturally will want someone who can do so the same way as you. However, your b/f doesn't seem to want to admit live.
Good luck
2006-11-11 03:01:35 · answer #1 · answered by BlueGirl007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is someone you don't trust even in your life? Let him go...that relationship isn't good for you OR your child (why on earth would you have a drug user around her???)
He's not a good boyfriend, so you're not being a good girlfriend...you'd be better off on your own than supporting him for no reason...what's the appeal?
Think of your daughter...get him out of y'alls life...and move forwarding making something wonderful for the two of you...
2006-11-11 03:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well NI..: You've got what you'd call a "pet" at home. What do you want? why don't you get yourself a dog. Send your boyfriend out to work. Tell him to get his butt off the couch, go out and get a job. Take a chance at life for goodness sake. If the big dummy wants to wander let him, than tell him to hit the road. Why would you want him around anyway, you can't trust him and that's what life is about, isn't it.
2006-11-11 03:02:46 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not at all, you have reason not to trust him. since he isnt getting the freedom he wants, he is just taking it out on you. what he has to realize, is that you are the one supporting the family, and assuming your the only one who works, i assume the money he gets for the drugs is from you. if thats the case, you definately have a right not to let him out when you get home, because he would be spending YOUR hard earned money, when he isnt trying to do anything to support himself.
2006-11-11 03:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by mike s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even with him? He's a liar, a drug user, and you can't trust him as far as you can throw him!
This sounds like the perfect guy for you and your two kids.
2006-11-11 03:00:03 · answer #5 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a bad g/f. Get rid of this loser now. especially with kids around.
2006-11-11 03:00:01 · answer #6 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to drop this guy. He blames you for things that are his fault. He is a lazy bum and should be kicked to the curb.
2006-11-11 03:02:04 · answer #7 · answered by tainaprq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is a looser and you are too if you are putting up a man. It will be a cold day in hell when I support a perfectly capable man.
2006-11-11 02:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋