one of by guy friends is my age 16 nearly 17 and he's being going out with my 14 year old sister (she was 13 last month) since the end of Summer. I wasn't overly happy about the relationship but neither are ones to do as their told so i just kept out of it. Yesterday at school I heard him talking with his mates and talking about how good my sister is in bed. I was horrified and confronted him immediatly hoping that he'd tell me it was all for show for his mates but he admitted that they had first slept together on her birthday. I've spoken to my sister and she's admitted it but begged me not to tell our parents. I'm really worried about this as I know what my friend is like, he's been with a lot of girls and usually dumps them after he's had enough. Also theres so much trouble she can get into. What should I do?
2006-11-11 02:53:17 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She also won't listen to me about staying away from him
2006-11-11 02:54:49 · update #1
I'm older, and my children are older than you. I can tell you as a parent, I'd want to know.
If your sister won't take steps to protect herself, then you should give your parents the opportunity.
The guy sounds like predator and your sister is likely attracted to the attention he give her.
This is incredibly unsafe for her, and could get him a host of trouble also.
I hope you have the courage to do the right thing for your sister.
2006-11-11 03:02:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
No no no... do not tell your parents. If you tell your parents and they break up the relationship she will never get the lesson from him that she needs. She needs to know what men are like. Just be there for her, you know what he is like also. But if you tell your parents, you are going to make her hate you. If you keep this secret and keep talking to her and get her to confide in you, you have more of a chance at being her role model. I hope this wasn't too broken up for you to understand what I am saying. But you need to get her confidence, then she will see that you are right. Definatly let her know that he was talking smack to his friends. But don't run and tell your parents. This will cause a lot of hate and mistrust all the way around. If he has an STD she probably already has it. As far as pregnancy goes, ask her if she will want to have to explain that to your parents. Just keep talking to her. Try to get her interested in something besides that boy. You can do it! Keep God with you when you talk to her.
You also have an advantage with that guy being your friend. Threaten him. Tell him that you are going to get him. Scare him with something. If you think that you can do that and him not go back and tell your sister. Have you told your sister about all the girls he has hurt? She could be under the illusion that she is special. Good luck girl.
2006-11-11 03:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by jennifer c 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to warn your sister about this guy. Tell her that he's trouble and she has got to stay away from him. Tell her that if she doesn't stay away from him and get out of that relationship then you'll tell your parents. Tell her what kind of consequences that she'll face if she doesn't listen to you.
If she doesn't care about what's going to happen then I'd talk to the guy and tell him to stay away from your sister. If you don't wanna do that then just tell your parents.
Your sister may be very angry at you and the family but later on in her life she will be glad. It's best to save her now before she winds up pregnant and having to spend her high school years with a baby and without the Dad to help her out.
2006-11-11 03:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds crazy but.. I actually know what you're going through. I had the same problem with my sister. (only she wasn't as young as yours). I know it's hard to do, but sometimes letting things happen is best. Either she'll get sick of him and break up with him or unfortunately she'll get hurt. Whatever happens just be there for your sister. She'll appreciate that. And don't say "I told you so" That'll just make her feel even worse. I don't know what else to say. She'll eventually learn to see which guys are good and which are not so good but she has to fall to see what's really going on. If you need anything else... just email me.. I'll help in any way i can. hope you feel better about this soon.
2006-11-11 03:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get through to your sister. She is too young to have proper judgement.
At the same time you want to maintain a good relationship with her so what to do?
I suggest a long talk with her to convey the message that you are concerned about her welbeing and tha your parents need to be informed. Ask her to talk to Mom. Tell her if she doesn't then you feel an obligation to do it.
At least you are giving her fair warning and have told her why.
Good luck.
2006-11-11 02:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by Carl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the best thing to do is to talk to her and let her know that
she needs to stop from seeing this boy, tell her what you heard
in fact if she doesn't believe you, record him saying stuff about your sister, or have some witnesses and/or confront her
boyfriend in front of her. If she doesn't do anything about it, tell
your sister that you'll tell your parents, and the reason that you're
doing this is because you care for her.
Good luck!
2006-11-11 03:04:37 · answer #6 · answered by Sabine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
scarey.. I would tell your folks honestly - it will piss her off it will piss him off but in the long run it will save her from worse things - like getting pregnant then getting dumped...
there is no good reason why a guy that age would be hanging with a girl that age except for sex..
your sister needs more self esteme right now she is finding love (or what she thinks is love) with this guy becuase she feels better about herself when she is with him.. this is a false emotion.. your parents need to end the relationship and spend more positive time with her - get her involved in a hobby or something she feels good about - she is looking for self esteme in the wrong place and will be hurt becuase of it
2006-11-11 03:01:28 · answer #7 · answered by CF_ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is tell your parents no matter how mad your friend and your sister may be tell your parents they have the right to know.
2006-11-11 02:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty girl 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents NOW!! I don't know the laws in your area, but the guy is messing with a minor. PLEASE...do something. You will be doing her a big favor! Godloveya.
2006-11-11 03:07:32 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents! Your friend has legally raped your sister, and this needs to be reported to the police!
2006-11-11 04:06:04 · answer #10 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋