I come from a family of 5 (3 brothers & 1 sister) & am 2nd to the oldest; recently my brother died in a car accident; he was only 21 (RIP). My parents are divorced, my mother can't stand my father & won't talk to him @ all. My brother owned his own home & has things that're worth $$$; my parents are fighting over the house not wanting either to "get it" but want it for us kids. I dont want 2 sell the house; my brother put his blood, sweat & tears into that house but @ the same time no 1 wants to live in it (except me). I want 2 preserve my brother's house & would like 2 live there, but am scared. It's a new area, what if my husband & I can't find work, what if it's a bad neighborhood? I live in NV & my brother lived in CA; I'm lost on what to do. My aunts (to add to the issue) helping my dad w/a lawyer & I'm afraid she's trying to persuay my dad 2 sign the house 2 her but am not completely sure of it. My other brothers & sister are nonconfrontational & I don't think theyd fight for it.
2006-11-11 02:47:50 · 5 answers · asked by iilive4music 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off, I'm sorry to hear about your brother.
Secondly, if you would like to get the house talk to your husband about it and find it on MapQuest.com. See what kind of places are around that neighborhood and if you would be happy there. I'd also suggest you might want to take a trip over there to get a feel of what the place looks like. Some things to consider ahead of time are places that you and your husband can work at around there that pay good and where you will be happy at. Housing is expensive over there in CA and you're really gonna need the money.
Talk to your aunt and Dad and tell them that you want the house. If your aunt argues tell her that you need the house more than anybody because you were his sister and you would like to live in it. Maybe you should even get a lawyer so you can sign the house to you and your husband if y'all decide to get the house.
I hope I helped. Good luck!!
2006-11-11 03:01:14 · answer #1 · answered by sweetdollツ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss. In this case, I really think you should get some counseling before moving to a new area. It might be best to sell the home and contents except for a few things that might be special to each of you. You're grieving right now and it's not a good time to make such major decitions. Your family could always lease the home out for a year and let things settle down before making a major decision. godloveya.
2006-11-11 10:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I say you either move or someone else is gonna get it or sell it and you will be left with nothing. This happens so many time after someone dies. I say you better make up your mind quickly on this one before it gets away from you. Ask your parents if they mind if you go ahead and live there to preserve what your Brother worked so hard on. I wish you the best. It is always hard when the people in the family don't agree on what is best.
2006-11-11 10:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look I understand am very sorry to hear about your brother.I wish noithing but the best for all of you people.One you should be worried were to bruied your brother at.Two If you want the house move in it.Three Maybe this is gods way of saing you both need a change of life.He work in very funny ways.And Frouth Your family need to think about your brother and not yourslef's.money is evil.
2006-11-11 11:03:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'M SORRY for your loss, just tell them what you just told me!
2006-11-11 11:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by It's just me! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋