i feel really dumb when i talk to my girlfriend cause i say hey whats up....cool did you have a good day?...and then bam after that i cant talk!cant think of anything else to say so were there soing umm... for like five minutes.Please help me i dont want her to break up with me cause i cant talk to her on aim or on the phone.Please Help! p.s. Dont tell me to say ask her what to say,whats you fav color or movie,hows your day going,etc cause i said those already and i say hows your day like every time i begin to talk to her.So PLEASE help me to start flowing when i talk to her.(not rapping)
2006-11-11 02:47:46 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh and we been going out for 3 days now.
2006-11-11 03:01:16 · update #1
ok we have a lot of things in coman like what we like and dislike.
2006-11-11 03:08:20 · update #2
i feel for you bro, try just making out with her.
2006-11-11 02:51:18 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long have you guys been dating? Is it because it's a fairly new relationship and you're nervous? Start off by asking her how her day is and then when she tells you, you bounce ideas off of that. For instance, if she says that she almost got into an accident because some jerk with road rage cut her off you can work off of that. Ask her if she's okay then go on to say something like what's wrong with all these people and why are they in such a hurry. You could even tell her something that happened to you while you were driving.
I don't know how old you are but you can tell her what happened to you at school/work. Start off with "you know what happened today when I went to school/work?" Then she'll ask "what" then tell her. Tell her you miss her or you want to see her. If this is a new relationship, be honest and tell her that you're nervous and when you get nervous you kind of freeze up in the conversation area, she'll probably think that's cute, flattering, or she's totally understand and work with you. Just as long as you're honest with her, you shouldn't have an issue. Now don't get too mushy and too needy with her (like always being available 100% of the time) girls like to kind of like the chase and if you're always there and always telling her that you miss her and stuff like that, she might get turned off by that. I think that's why I stuck with my husband, because he kind of made me wonder a little bit and chase him in the very beginning. Now after you guys have been together for a while or become serious then it's okay to let her know that you miss her all the time, and so on. Good luck to you!
2006-11-11 02:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it might seem hard to talk or keep up a conversation but after asking her how's her day going then ask her is she tired, does she feel like the relationship is going well. Talk about stuff that makes her feel good. Even compliment her on the way she looks. Even the smallest thing would be a conversation. Just be yourself
2006-11-11 02:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm goin to take it the two of you havent been together very long...You are probably just shy and dont want to say the wrong thing.
You actually start off real well. But you dont have to always ask questions. Think of something that you find interesting and know stuff about. Then you can start off like "Oh did you hear about ___ ___ ___(fill in the blanks)" And just go from there. Get her opinion and state your own.....things will hopefully progress from there
2006-11-11 02:54:04 · answer #4 · answered by cherry c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So.....what do you "want" us to tell you? Does "she" talk while you're "not" talking? Do you tell her how "your" day went? Ask her what kind of things she likes to do, and tell her what kind of things "you" like to do? Then go do these things? I don't know either of you, so I can't tell you what to say or ask. Besides, what makes you think you "have" to talk all the time? You don't, okay?
Actually, there's nothing worse than a person (guy or girl) who thinks they "have" to talk, or you have nothing in common, or the person will get bored and break up with you. So just relax, okay? It will be fine. If you have something to say, say it, if you don't, don't talk needlessly, okay? Relax. And just for the record? I've broke up with a couple of guys "because" they talked too much!
Relax....you're just fine the way you are.
2006-11-11 02:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by Republican!!! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Small talk can be torture! But I would focus on talking to her about what she wants to do in her life; then you can talk about your goals too. Talk about things your parents/grandparents did when you were a kid. Start sending emails with jokes and fun stuff to do and talk about later. Just come out and tell her sometimes you're stuck for conversation. She will understand. Godloveya.
2006-11-11 02:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
most women like a man that can talk gossip with them without being critical. find out whose her best friend. who she dislikes best is what you need to know first. find out what her plans are for the future, what goals does she have, would she like to have kids, show her that you are interested in her, mind and not just her body. send her flowers, this will make up for lack of conversation. you need to find out if this is really a compatible person for you also. take her for walks, invite her to church, you will need God in you life to guide the two of you. good luck, and don't worry so much about what to say. take her to the park, push her in the swings, make her feel young, pretty, and loved.
2006-11-11 02:57:27 · answer #7 · answered by shaglemongirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just chat about daily things - like school, different classes there, upcoming events, movies you've both seen, etc. It's not so much she wants you to become personal in conversation, she just wants to know you are thinking of her (enough to call) and more than likely she likes the sound of your voice.
2006-11-11 02:53:05 · answer #8 · answered by Decoy Duck 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her questions about her likes and dislikes and use her answers to fuel more questions. We women love it when a man talks to us about us.
Eventually she will begin to ask you questions about yourself and then the conversation will pick up from there and you will no longer be at a loss for words.
2006-11-11 02:51:12 · answer #9 · answered by Angela 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of situations in her life , in your school or in the news ask her her opinion, not a simple yes or no question , but what she thinks , why she thinks it , do you agree , disagree and why ?
example : What do you think about the new dress code ?
Do you think everyone else will feel the same
2006-11-11 02:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by DEADGONE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obvously she i not the gal for you. Or you wouldn't have to TRY to talk yo her. Start with saying she looks pretty, you like her hair and new top. Then she will say thanks, you look nice too. Then you say what did you do this morning, only I was doing this . .
Really you are hopeless
2006-11-11 02:51:29 · answer #11 · answered by Becky!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋