ok, so my brother is a big problem.when we were younger, he would always pick fights with me and treat me like a servant, litterally. now that he's turned 18, he acts like he's the man of the house. he treats my mother like s**t and says he doesnt care about her. he works at freaking mcdonalds, and doesnt even give her money to help pay the rent, the internet, phone, etc, and he abuses all of this (ie: always online, talks on the phone a lot, never turns off a light when not in use, leaves the computer on for the entire night) and it's really bothering me. i dont get it. what is wrong with him? i dont know what to do. he always eats all the food, and my mother works for days in a row, so it's not like she can just buy groceries every 3 days. while im at school, he goes into my mother and my bedrooms and leaves garbage on the night table. he never cleans. It's like hes a baby that i have to babysit, and HE'S OLDER! i cant bring up the situation because he gets angry and hits me. help!?
2006-11-11 02:43:45 · 10 answers · asked by llovesurmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Your brother is acting that way because your mothe rhas allowed it since he was a little kid. Now that he's getting a real dose of testostrone (hormones), he's feeling tough. Do you have an older male relative who can stand up for you and your mom? Like an uncle? If so, tell them the problem. You mom needs to tell your brother to hit the road and the next time he lays a hand on you, or your mother, call the police. He's not contributing anything to your home, he's only abusing and using. He can only do that if allowed to do it. He could join the "job corp" and they will train him and shelter/feed him. OH...put a lock on the frig and your doors if you want to keep him out of your stuff. Might be he's "using". Please be careful and get some serious help. (Where is his Dad?) godloveya.
2006-11-11 02:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you are going through this. It could be several reasons your brother is acting this way....such as drugs, lack of friends, needing attention...etc...The first thing I would do is take your mom and yourself and go somewhere private to discuss the situation about your brother. Give her a reality check about him. Most 18 year old are helping out with bills if they still live at home, or in college, or moved out. If your mom can see your point of view maybe she should tell him if you don't clean up your act and help out with the bills and chores your moving out. That may give him a wake up call. I wish the best of luck to you!!!
2006-11-11 03:00:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things only get worse with these kind of things. My advice is go to college finish your degree, don't worry too much about the house. They will manage for little while. I have done that, it works like a charm. After you find nice job, go back home and help them out financially to fix things.
In life nothing gets done itself, you have to take control of situations. When you stay away from your brother for little while, respect for you will grow. Also, trying to do everything yourself won't help because they know there is someone there to take care of things so let things slide by.
2006-11-11 03:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by CheezeL00ver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your brother needs to keep his hands off you! Does your Mom know he is hitting you? You Mom is enabling him so as long as this goes on, nothing will change. Cant you talk to your her about this? I assume your Dad isn't in the picture. Can you talk to family members or maybe tell your Mom you hate the fact that she is allowing this to go on. Tell her she either does something about it or you will. By the way, does your brother know he can be arrested for assaulting you? Good luck
2006-11-11 02:59:13 · answer #4 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let me start by sayin that since your brother thinks he's grown your mom needs to kick him out of the house. Dont let your brother hit on you or your mom. Hit him back.Do something to the things he loves alot so that way he knows how you and your mom feels. I think its time for your brother to leave the house. So talk to your mom about kicking him out and if she says yes then give him the boot. Peace.Goodbye
2006-11-11 02:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your brother was allowed by your mother to treat you and her this way, probably your mother has some guilt issues and only she can do something about him. if he hits you call the police and have him arrested, best to have a witness. after being arrested a few times he may think twice about hitting you. don't allow him to treat you badly as for your mom she needs to make some changes for herself.. remember you cannot change anyone but yourself. so don't ever ever try. people will do to you, what you let them. good luck
2006-11-11 02:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a problem that your mother should be handling, not you. If it were me i would be having a talk with my mother and suggest that if he doesnt want to help contribute around the house then maybe it's time he find his own place to live
2006-11-11 02:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
too much of ur attention and care is making things worse.u and ur mother do not deserve this suffering.be strong. either u leave him or tell him to leave u alone.
2006-11-11 03:02:36 · answer #8 · answered by zubi z 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Introduce her to a nice, decent girl, and hope for the best. This might change him.
2006-11-11 02:46:56 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might sound, terrible but..... kick him out!
2006-11-11 03:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋