She moved, not us. My family is here. Children, grand child, and my recently widowed mom. She called and asked us to travel over 8 hours to see her new home. Hubby says no. he doesn't want to leave my mom especially.
2006-11-11 02:38:49 · 11 answers · asked by dixiedarling 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We did invite her and rest of hubby's family. SIL is going there & BIL is staying with us.
2006-11-11 02:48:54 · update #1
Absolutely not. It is selfish of her to even ask. Especially with your mother recently widowed. Making sure you mother is OK through the holidays should be priority; and she should understand that. I know that the holidays can be the most trying for someone right after they have lost a loved one. Hold your ground. Stay where you belong. I am sure she will get over it. Good luck and happy holidays!!
2006-11-11 02:52:32 · answer #1 · answered by heyitsmedarra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think that you are wrong. At this time it is not convenient to travel nor is it reasonable decision. Your MIL should not expect for her son's family to travel to her home state, and not consider your feelings.
I live in the same state as my family; parents, sister, brother, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, etc. but I have decided to do something different this Thanksgiving. Instead of sitting around the table eating all day, and discussing the personal business of family members that are not there to defend their actions----I have made other plans.
2006-11-11 02:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by roddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like this: "Sweetheart, I merely had a threesome mutually with your mom and Grandma" this could sufficiently ask your self her. then you definately you're able to say "merely kidding honey, what variety of a guy do you think of i'm....! Harrumph!!! with the help of ways I do have a spouse and 2 toddlers". She'll be so relieved which you probably did not have a bone consultation along with her mom and grammy, each thing would be forgiven. desire this helped.
2016-11-23 15:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by fahner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as i mom,i can see her wanting you there,but no it is not right for her to ask you to come see her,under the circumstances,if she can afford a new home she can afford to come see you,and i think your mom needs you too,yes i have kids ,they come when they can,some mothers and a few dads never stop and think,my kids have life's of there own now,so tell her no but with kindness she does love ya
2006-11-11 02:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not wrong at all. Your MIL poses to inconvenience so many people on the most travelled holiday in the nation.
You and your husband agree and it should be settled.
2006-11-11 02:45:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would agree with you. i wouldn't want to travel 8 hours with children. when move 4 people just to see one.
2006-11-11 02:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is probably lonely. Can she travel? Ask her to make a video tape of her new home and come to you.
2006-11-11 02:45:51 · answer #7 · answered by nora7142@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just let her know you had other prior arrangements that you just can't break. She will just have to be mad!! Let her know that maybe next year you could come whenyou have more time to plan and more time to stay. Maybe that will make her feel better.
2006-11-11 02:46:31 · answer #8 · answered by hehmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not wrong. Don't apologize, just say you've made plans that you can't change and she is welcome to come your way if she wants to. Don't feel guilty. Sounds like a "control" issue to me. Stand up for what you want to do and do it!!! Godloveya.
2006-11-11 02:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you’re not wrong. But you could return the invitation and offer that she joins you.
2006-11-11 02:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by Snicklefritz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋