Ive been going out with her for some time and she stoped smoking last summer. i made her promase me that she wounldnt smoke and now she is realy wanting to smoke and idk if i should just let her cuz i feel like it will change our relationship like i would see her less cuz she has to go smoke at someones house and if she did i couldnt see her hurt herself like that. or like if she dose it then i dnt want to be kissing or huging smoke. i love her to death and idk what to do and if it gets to out of control i think i mihgt break up with her can anyone give me some advise on what to do??
2006-11-11 02:24:48 · 14 answers · asked by in need of help 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Let her know it is a choice, you or the pot. If she chooses the pot you will know what is more important to her. She may want you to be what keeps her from smoking, if she has a dependency problem the pot will not be the end of it down the line.
2006-11-11 02:28:09 · answer #1 · answered by ஐAldaஐ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahhh, I do have some experience in this problem. Gradually let her stop and let her know how much it means to you to have her stop. If she won't stop and you cannot stand it then chances are you might not want to be with her. Now remember this, if she does end up quitting expect her to slip up a little bit. Pot smokers don't seem to think that its addicting but I have an idea that it's WAY more addicitng that they think....I have seen this situation in action. The best thing you can do for now is be persistant without being too pushy or demanding. Good Luck!!
2006-11-11 10:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, I have been through the same thing 2 husbands later and let me just tell you......THEY DON"T QUIT!!! Now you can look at in several different ways..
1) Give her a choice and if she chooses pot, then theres your answer. OR
2) Did she smoke it when you guys met? If so, it must of been ok in the beginning so why make her quit now? You can never change someone to something they are not, they have to quit cuz THEY want to, not cuz someone else wants them to. If she does choose you, chances are she WILL sneak behind your back. Been there done it... THEY NEVER QUIT!!!
So I have learned to accept that, that was what he was when I met him and can't change him.....4 years later:-)
2006-11-11 10:40:06 · answer #3 · answered by tinch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience I tell you that, you cannot change her habit. She is addicted to the way the weed makes her feel. If you threaten her for smoking it, you will make her want it even more or hate you for trying to make her stop. If she does try to quit on her, she will be the biggest b*tch you've ever been around and you guys will fight the entire time she is trying to quit. If she can't quit and it's not causing you financial trouble and she keeps it discreet, then just let her do it. If she's spending every dime on it and risking jail time, let her do that too, she will go to jail or go broke, then she will have to quit and loose you too. Either way, YOU CANNOT MAKE her change.
2006-11-11 10:33:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go into a relationship knowing she does something, only to try to change it. She isn't there to change or to change you! If you love her enjoy the company and everything about her. It's kind of like me dating a guy with brown hair and then because we become serious I tell him I would rather him have blond hair. Weed isn't that serious, it is not a "gateway" drug, it is not addictive, it all depends on the person and what they want to do. My husband tried to get me to stop smoking cigarettes even though he knew that I smoked the day he met me, my only question was why the hell did he want to pursue me so bad just to change something about me? It's rude and you need to either deal with it or leave.
2006-11-11 10:32:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a new girlfriend - FAST! The only person you can change is YOU! She enjoys what she is doing and that's her choice - you choice needs to be getting a new girlfriend. If you think that would just be to hard to do, well, you don't know hard until you have spent years and years loving someone on drugs. Her habit will only get worse - you need to get out now!
P.S. your decision to leave, may just be the dramatic effect she needs to change her life - but you can't let that affect your decision. It "may" be the catalyst she needs but it also may not affect her at all.
2006-11-11 10:30:31 · answer #6 · answered by LABL 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not change anyone my friend. She may not want to do it but she can not just stop when she wants to. The devils trick is lust of the flesh. Her spirit wants God but her flesh wants sin. It is a war between her flesh and her spirit. The only answer is to get help from God because He speaks to our spirit. So she needs to hear the word. She can not stop in the natural realm, she can stop in the spiritual realm. Preach to her or take her to church so she can hear the Word of God and He will convict her and call her to Him if the word is preached under the annointing by God. She will let her spirit answer and cry out to God and He will make her a brand new person born in the spirit. I have been where she is. I am talking from experience. Can you get her to read the Bible. God can speak to her thru the Bible. It will take God to do this job.
2006-11-11 10:35:52 · answer #7 · answered by MSNRY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She'll thank you in the end for helping her quit! If you really loved her, you wouldn't let her do that to herself whether you were watching or not. I know it's real freaking hard, but you've gotta suck it up. If she still won't quit after you've given it a considerable amount of time, then you've gotta let her go. I know that's hard to, but write a poem or song over it and that'll migitate the pain.
P.S. You can't help her on your own. Talk to a counselor or take her to a rehab center.
Peace! God Bless Ya!
2006-11-11 10:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Lent hers reed dis anser. i smokeded pots por mamy yeers and i cants hardsly enythigs 2 doo
2006-11-11 10:39:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said you love her. Then speak to her. My boyfriend did not like me smoking cigarretts and he toldme . I love him so I quit smoking.
2006-11-11 10:28:00 · answer #10 · answered by Joe 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋