We met in a chat room and there's a significant age difference between us (12 years) but when we chat it's awesome! He's smart, funny, and really keeps me on my toes when we debate about things! However, no matter how many times I've hinted around the subject of actually wanting to "take it outside of the box", he declines. We've never even spoken on the phone! I really like his personality and I know he's not married and doesn't have a girlfriend so why doesn't he want to meet me in person, or even talk to me on the phone? What's he afraid of?
2006-11-11 02:24:41 · 18 answers · asked by Cassyee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's just chat. Nothing more. That's all he wants from you.
2006-11-11 02:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it seems to me that there are a lot of things going on that you dont know. It's really suspitious that he even refuse talking on the phone. may be he is a girl? and is playing with you? believe me, I myself have seen some girls whom are playing with other girls on internet. I'm not meaning to stop chatting or anything else, but never forget that in this kind of situations that you even haven't heard his voice, you should look absolutely pessimist.
5 years isn't a short time and you should be clear with him and yourself. If you just want a friendship, then it's great that you have someone to talk to, and if you want a relationship more than friendship, ask him directly and never let anyone to play with you and your feelings.
You should be serious and want him to clarify the situation. and remember that you should avoid a day that you sit and blame yourself while you are telling such wasting time by talking to him or thinking of him.
sorry for my english
2006-11-11 02:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother chatted with a woman for years. They were best friends. Finally, the woman admits that the whole time she had been sending pictures of her daughter claiming it was her because she was so embarrassed of the way she looked. People lie, no matter how much you think you know them. He doesn't want you to see him for some reason. Accept it and move on.
2006-11-11 02:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by deliannathaniel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 18:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by para 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do you know hes not married or got a girlfriend? You havent met him or seen his life in person... Online is an illusion to whats really going on.. You have to know that persons life to see that hes not in a relationship. he can tell you anything online. I think your way to trusting to believe him when he says hes not in a relationship......why else wouldnt he want to meet after 5 years?
2006-11-11 02:30:23 · answer #5 · answered by donna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not a guy?
Maybe he is married.
Maybe he does have a girlfried.
Maybe you already know him?????????? (creepy, I know)
Maybe he is a hermit type and feels uncomfortable with others in person.
Why not just enjoy what you have with him as a pal and leave it at that. His is clearly not interested in more. Instead of thinking what he is afraid of, I would be wonder why you aren't afraid. Meeting him now could result in a loss of what you already both like....your IM relationship.
2006-11-11 02:29:27 · answer #6 · answered by ssssss 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
How do you know for certain that his is not married or attached? What is the geographical distance between the two of you? My husband and I met online 10 years ago. Is he wiling to talk about why he doesn't want to meet? His responses would be very telling to me... What are your intimate conversations like?
2006-11-11 02:28:54 · answer #7 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, hun, the only reason he wouldn't want to meet you in person is probably because he IS married, and he didn't want to tell you.
He's probably the same guy I'm talking to. Sorry, girl.
Who knows...HE could be a 16-year-old 500-pound GIRL.
Have you ever seen his pic?
2006-11-11 02:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by lkjgfyfukh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are hes either married with kids or lying about his identity..or he is not what he says he is ... heck mabye he is a "she" .. i mean come one after 5 years of chatting i will sure need to know who is on the other side.. ask him again for coffee or lunch .. if he;s avoiding the topic .. i think deres something really gg on in reality . gd luck
2006-11-11 02:31:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to wait till he gets out of Prison first before he will meet with you
2006-11-11 11:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋