does anyone ever feel like nobody wants them?

Question

i have been single for so long now its getting beyond a joke. Dont get me wrong i dont feel i need a man to complete me but i also do dream of falling in love with someone. Im a pretty girl (a get quite alot of male attention) but none of men seem to stick about and im really starting to doubt my self. I also think i heve a caring kind fun personality and my career is going well. My close frienf has recently met a guy im not jealous as i am really happy for her but last night she promised to go for a drink after we had made plans for ages and them dumped me at the last minute to stay in with this guy..i called her today and she has just ignored my calls...im 25 some of my friends are engaged and i get a strong feeling im going to be on the shelf for a long time does any body know how one can change this situation without resulting to dating agencies? Do you think its a iitle rude of my fried to cancel she also keeps on going on (really really putting it in my face) ?

Answer 1

I'll gan oot with ya, pet

Answer 2

Everybody feels like that from time to time. If you didn't it would mean you're heartless. Your friend is being insensitive to your situation but I'm sure she isn't doing it on purpose. Despite that it's still wrong to dump you in the last minute because of a guy. She should have told you earlier or say no to the guy. Ignoring phone calls is not a really nice thing either. Confront her that you would like to spend more time with her but don't whine to her that she spends all her time with the other guy it will get her irritated. Oh and I'm sure you'll find someone from your description I really don't think you'll stay "on the shelf". Find some friends that aren't dating anyone a go out with them to parties and other social activities.

Answer 3

Join a club or a sports group, don't try finding guys at the pub all they want are one night stands, also ask if your mates new bf has any single friends, I think your friend is just so caught up in this new bf she doesn't realise how rude she is being, don't be to hard on her, having a new bf does cloud your judgement for a start, you might see it as rubbing it in your face, but she might just be really happy she has found someone.

You will find someone too

Answer 4

Dear there is nothing wrong with being single, it gives you time to work on you and your career. Sometimes there are individuals who go their whole life without finding that special someone but success may override that and bring you happiness. Don't look at it as you are getting old you have many years ahead of you and like some of the other users said good things come to those who wait :-)

Answer 5

Some people find the right one early, for some others it takes longer.

Let me assure you, it is far better to date casually until you find the right one than to press and get into a relationship that is a disaster.

Sometimes men sense the panic and urgency in a woman who feels she is losing out and it can be a turnoff. Some men use it
for predatory sex....the old hump and dump.

Cool is best.

Dont feel too badly about your friend. Her relationship has made her tunnelvisioned. Try to be understanding while she is on her
pink cloud.

Emotionally, I know this is really hard, but it WILL work out for you.

Answer 6

Maybe you should look at the vibes you give off to men...maybe you come across as unsure of yourself, and this can be a signal to say keep your distance, we should always be self aware of how we act, our body language, because believe it or not we do send messages out through our body language without realizing it ....maybe you should try being a bit more relaxed, and laid back about the whole thing.......no man wants to approach a women who seems like she don't need a man, and who he feels may be difficult to approach, but having said that remember nothing ever happens before the right time.

Answer 7

everyone feels this way at some point or another, guys and girls. Stop looking and something good will happen. it's as if the guys can feel your desperation vibe. just go to work, have fun with your girl friends or your animals and enjoy life. when it's time, something great will happen for you.

the fact that your friends are getting married and moving on increases this feeling of desperation but you have to ignore it and live your own life.

best place to meet a guy is in evening college courses. a somwhat inteligent one anyway.

Answer 8

there's nothing wrong with being single at 25.. my sister was in a long relationship like 2/3 years with a guy and she knew they weren't going to get married but she stuck with him because she liked his company.. they broke up for a little while and met a new guy that she's happy with.. different people find people at different rates. don't worry about it and don't rush it because you feel you're getting too old because it isn't going to be right and you'll probably end up with a divorce or something

Answer 9

Let your friend know that you were hurt by that.
Yes, everyone, at times, feels the same way. I commend you on staying alone. No, really...You wouldn't believe the people that just settle for someone so they won't be alone and then complain that they are miserable. Just stick to what you want. Don't settle. There is someone out there for you...Don't worry.

Answer 10

well dont put ur self up on the shelf yet little lady. yes there are a few men out here having the same problom as you (38) when God says yes and you man on the white horse comes to you and say will u be mine forever it will. And for your friend yes i think she was a little rude. You will survie it my be harder but u will. your young where ae u locted? eastcoast usa del.

Answer 11

I don't think your friend is trying to rub it in your face, but it is rude to cancel plans to hang out with your boyfriend. I just think you are maybe smart enough to not have lowered your standards yet, so just keep looking and I bet you'll find a guy worthy of you.