I love her very much and only get to make love with her on Saturday nights. I don't mind it rough at times but she wants me to swear at her and throw her around all the time.
I would prefer that we were a bit gentler with each other.
How can I suggest this without upsetting her?
2006-11-11 01:32:36 · 22 answers · asked by Sky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Last weekend I bought massage oil and tried to slow things down, it worked for a while then it seemed like she has to make up for lost time cos she started being even wilder placing fingers where fingers should not go in a man. It was very painful and I tried stopping her but she would not listen and said I love it which I did not.
2006-11-11 01:49:05 · update #1
Just explain that sometimes you would like to do it a bit gentler. Do it her way sometimes and your way other times.
2006-11-11 01:37:24 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would simply talk to her and let her know if that is what she likes then okay, but also say to her that it would be good if we have a little more gentle love making and enjoy the passion out of it..Instead of being so rough about it all the time...She should understand and will try the idea..
2006-11-11 01:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by beagirl40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this for real? Wow. - Anyway.. as with all things the key word is comprimise. Do the rough stuff one week and tell her you want to do strokey, lovey, feeley bit the next.
Trouble is I'm led to believe some people can only get truly turned on by being debased.
2006-11-11 01:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Cynical_Si 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In all seriousness, did something happen to her in a previous relationship, something violent? This could be her way of dealing with it...? I know it sounds crazy but try getting her to open up...discuss what YOU prefer in bed and ask her the same question....when she tells you, if it's rough, ask her what it is that turns her on so much. Just a thought.
2006-11-11 05:10:27 · answer #4 · answered by Bridezilla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just suggest it is all. my girlfriend and i go all kinds of different ways with that. rough, soft and gentle and sometimes it's just flat out dirty pornstar style. i have my moments where i want something she doesn't and you just say "sorry, i kinda don't want that right now" but, not to be an a-hole or anything, i wish my girlfriend was like yours more often. honestly, thats kinda hot.
but i do get what you mean and i feel like why would she be offended?? you should be able to tell her your opinion and not have her be upset about something like that. it's not like you're saying "hey, you know what i think? i think you should lose some weight chubby." now that i'd be nervous about. your thing, i wouldn't be so nervous about. good luck!
2006-11-11 01:43:59 · answer #5 · answered by adman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop going over there on Saturdays, until she will at least talk to you about your concerns... Is this a one-sided relationship... If she can't listen , then I wouldn't be a part of it. If she has a savage need to carry on like this, you aren't the guy..plain and simple
2006-11-11 01:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you strange person. Grow some nuts and tell her to never put her finger where you don't want it too and she won't do it again. If you just keep telling her what she wats to hear se's going to get out of control.
Personally, I don't see what your problem is.... except for the whole finger thing and the swearing.
2006-11-11 07:27:23 · answer #7 · answered by pidgeywidgey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get to 65
AND you have a decent IQ
you will understand NOTHING abt the
Female Species. When you possess a
Sense of Humor, you can even have a
Laugh ......
Lemon Tree, VERY PRETTY ..... ETC.
2006-11-11 01:45:33 · answer #8 · answered by Moonlite gambler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that is a problem that you should of kept to yourself but you will have to tell her what you are thinking if not just do it very rough to put her off and then slow thing down so that you both agree good luck
2006-11-11 01:56:57 · answer #9 · answered by caddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about suggesting some monkey business in a place where making a noise would be undesirable, such as your parents house?
2006-11-11 01:42:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋