My boyfriend is eight years younger than me, we have only been seeing each other 8 weeks. He is unemployed, has been on benefits for 2 years and tells me he is a song writer, singer. I am employed, run my own business part time, have a mortgage and financial commitments.
Things were find in the first week, but since then my boyfriend constantly finds fault with me and has finished with me 7 times in the 8 weeks. (Always by text) Things came to head when he again finished with me and became verbally abusive and attacked how I run my business and now our age diffence especially hurtful was his comment that I should be grateful he even bothered to speak to me (all by text.) I have decided to walk away by texting back that I forgave him for the hurtful things he has said, as deep down I am sure he is a nice guy, but I obviously make him unhappy. His reply was that it as a shame that i was not a nice person and thanked me for wasting his time. I am sure he will be back!
2006-11-11 01:24:05 · 18 answers · asked by jenifer241731 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to change your number straight away yes this guy is mentally ill and a lazy good for nothing bum you sound way to good for him dont let him put you down all this crap in 8 weeks i dont know how you put up with him stay clear of him sounds like jealousy is a big factor here......
2006-11-11 01:35:16 · answer #1 · answered by keevy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should read back what you have written. you have obviously convinced yourself that you should not get back with him or even stay on, at the least.
1) all by text- the guy is a coward
2) mean things- not a gentleman
3) 7 times in 8 weeks? - fickle
a rude and indecisive man- unemployed, at that... and claims he is a song writer and a singer (by whose standards?).
now tell me again, why are you with him in the first place?
2006-11-11 01:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anna D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My god, lose him he is just going to make you feel bad and unhappy all the time and why should you have to deal with a guy who acts like he is three, he really needs to grow up and stop blaming others for his crummy life, I don't think he is ill i think he is just lazy and wants things in life given to him on a golden platter, I'm sure you are a great gal go find someone who will appreciate you!
2006-11-11 01:34:42 · answer #3 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe with you he has a complex that you're successful and have so many more responsibilities than him. if you want, let him know that its okay that he's under your wing. men like to think they're supposed to be in control. he should feel lucky that you're liking him for who he is! but of course he won't show that, and don't force that on him or he'll rebel.
that said...are you sure he's ready to commit if he's so dilusional about being able to make a living off songwriting? i know people who are that way, they just don't understand there are a handful of people making peanuts on really really good music. some cultures just don't cut it I'm afraid.
be nice and try a little more, after that...let the good man go...
2006-11-11 01:30:49 · answer #4 · answered by B.B Top 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First i might could ask while you're prepared to come again including him, through fact while you're; i may well be nervous. through fact I truthfully have been in an abusive relationship earlier and it won't get greater effective. as quickly as a hitter consistently a hitter; so be careful. i might prefer to tell you that he does have some subjects, even with the undeniable fact that it may through fact of his mom; that is why the way he's. I truthfully have stress and social stress and he might have that, even with the undeniable fact that it style of feels to be different issues happening as nicely. i might have him get expert help earlier doing something. i might additionally advise that while you at the instant are not desirous to come again mutually; then i would not invite him any the place, through fact is merely lights the fuse; which makes him think of that that is beneficial to come again mutually. in case you nevertheless prefer to be acquaintances that is super yet i might look ahead to a jointly as until finally he gets some help. i'm hoping that this facilitates somewhat. good good fortune :)
2016-11-23 15:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by beaupre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, unemployed for 2 years? Come on.
He was hoping you were gonna be his "sugar momma" and apparently you aren't paying him enough to date you.
If you are as successful as you say, drop the loser. Use your energy in your business or in finding a real man that works for a living.
2006-11-11 01:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I call this type of relationship sour milk. Sour milk today is sour milk tomorrow even if you put it back in the refrigerator.
Move on... stop accepting his text messages. Delete them without reading them and do not respond to them.
Forget about him... focus on your business and other relationships that hold more promise.
2006-11-11 01:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip girl and get away from him .. whats wrong with u.. Your too good for him and he feels threatened. I wish I could meet someone like you who liked me for whatever shortfalls I had but that thing your with is a moron to not see that.. Believe me precious one hes not your kind..
2006-11-11 01:31:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell this dirt bag to get a life and stop mooching off you and go to work ,be done with his sorry azz!
2006-11-11 01:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by Droptine s 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Lady, you really need to read what you wrote here, because it sounds like you have some issues of your own that need addressed.
2006-11-11 01:35:30 · answer #10 · answered by Bikerbutt 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋