Relationship - Is This Girl Too Good To Be True?

Question

I’d like you help with this one - I am 45 and divorced and not had a relationship for 2 years. Three weeks ago in London I met a really gorgeous girl (I will call her Jo for this purpose) and we really hit it off well, she’s about 34, never married and works in the City as a “Future Banker Manager” what ever that is, she is every guys dream (believe me guys) but I have a few issues I can’t work out so I will be frank and list them!

1. Why does she act as if we have been friends forever?
2. Why is such a slim, sexy adventurous and beautiful pretty girl not taken?
3. Excuse this one but – why did she sleep with me the first night we met and every time since with enthusiasm and is so easy with it?
4. Should I try not to fall for her just in case it doesn’t work out?
5. I’d really like to make a go of it with her whatever she’s been like before!

I guess I am thinking that it could end as quickly as it started and that she may be just using me and she could get bored in a few Months.

Answer 1

Stop worrying, you won't get anywhere like this. If it is going to work then it will and it sounds like your both enjoying each other so just relax.

Answer 2

1. She may just be that sort of person. Or, it could be that you two have real chemistry. When I first met my boyfriend, we just talked and talked, like we'd known eachother for years!

2. As someone else said, maybe she's just waiting for the right guy. However, it's more common than people think for attractive girls to be available. Often guys assume they're not, ot that they're "out of their league", so never really make a move. As such, the attractive girl doesn't get a chance to be 'taken'.

3. Maybe she just really likes you, and apparently rather likes what you do in bed. On the other hand, she may only be interested in sex, and in fact sleeps around quite a bit. Not knowing the girl personally, it's hard for me to say :)

4. Things not working out is always a risk. If you keep deciding to 'not go for it' then it'll never have a chance to work out! I guess, do you think she might be worth it??

5. If you want to go for it, then go for it!!

It is possible it could all fizzle out very quickly. It happens a lot. I still think it's a worth a go. If it doesn't work out, just enjoy it while it lasts, and put it all down to 'life experience' :)

Answer 3

1. She's obviously very comfortable with you; a good sign.
2. maybe she was waiting for the right guy.
3. number 1 again.
4. You could, but then you could be alone for the rest of your life.
5. Then stop worrying, and just enjoy being with her.
Leave your baggage and insecurities at the door; she sounds great, and even if it does end, think what fun times you'll have in the meantime.

Answer 4

Your flying on a cloud Nine right now , You have to slow down , and talk to her alot so you know where she coming from. And Nothing is too good to be true, Karma is in effect you totally got a reward for something sweet that you done , that's why this girl showed up in your life and coincidence don't exist I believe everything that's happens to us happens for a reason , You meet this girl so you can learn something from her and same goes for her. God Bless You ! Good Luck I am next lol

Answer 5

maybe she noticed something about you that you didn't noticed about yourself. don't question yourself just because a pretty girl wants to talk to you. maybe you provide some kind of safety and she feels she can be herself around you. alot of girls give it up on the first night cause they feel attracted to you. he you have that connection with someone you feel comfortable with you tend to fall for that person and would like to experience what kind of love that person can have for you. you should try something with her because if you dont someone will and you dont want to be stuck wondering what if because you didnt say anything. life is about living in the moment. you might never have this chance again. take advantage of this, she might be the best thing to happen to you. don't wait or someone else could take your place.just look at it this way, she could either say yes or turn you down at least you know you tried. that way if she was with someone else you knew that she wasn't interested than not knowing anything at all.

Answer 6

Take each day at a time

She might be the sort of person that gets scared off by commintment so don't mention it.....

Just enjoy yourself she sounds like she has been living life to the max and now might be ready to settle down, like I have said don't put any pressure on anywhere.

Sounds fun xxx

Answer 7

Ya know there maybe so many different circumstances as to why this female friend that u have met is the way she is.. I think you should throw caution to the wind and go for it ... Never ever ASSUME its the worst thing in the world..
She sounds like a confident woman who is in touch with herself and is comfortable with her actions....
Go for it you have nothing to lose and everything to gain...

Answer 8

Three things:
1) Easy come, easy go
2) So what, it's a lot better than anything else you've got going
3) Hold on to your wallet

Answer 9

Just maybe she has fallen in love! Enjoy the moment , do not waste time analysing everything. Have fun and good luck.

Answer 10

you know, just give it a go is my opinion. she's probably ripe for a relationship and that's why she's showing such enthusiasm. don't bother to think you might not be good 'nough for her.

i mean, be cautious and know that you'll be alright if it doesn't work out. but don't let her know that you're cautious.

good luck, you lucky man..