2006-11-11 00:50:49 · 25 answers · asked by sex_drugs_sausage_rolls 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you are sure in your mind that you are ready to take that step. Take it from a single dad, a lot of effort needs to be put into a relationship with kids (on both sides) they are a big part of what you will be getting into. Keep in mind not only will you be entering into an already family, there are x-spouses that will always be there. Take it slow and be ready for the steps you choose to take.
2006-11-11 01:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by Barry W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being introduced to the kids shouldn't be rushed. Make sure you are in a stable relationship first because if you get on well with the kids then you break up it's the kids who get hurt the most.
2006-11-11 09:15:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the relationship and the mothers' circumstances. If you're comfortable with each other and it feels natural and it's more than a passing phase, perhaps the earlier the better. However, make sure you're in the know re. circumstances. The children could be very upset about their parents' split or the ex may be particularly troublesome, therefore caution may be needed and some preparations made before she introduces them to you! If she's holding back, make sure you know the reasons. Good luck and I hope you get on great with them and you have a very happy future together.XX
2006-11-11 08:58:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
hi, i think that you should be introduced to the kids when you have been going out for at least a few months and are pretty serious about each other, as i dont think it would be fair for the kids to get to know you only for you both to split up and walk away from each other, how do you explain that to a child.
2006-11-11 09:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I know that i'm with a guy that i really like & we start dating & it's not just sex then i would introduce my kids.You have to be very careful these days.Yes I am a single mum & would never let my kids meet the man i'm dating until it feels right
2006-11-11 08:56:33 · answer #5 · answered by cowboys4lee 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only after several months, or however long it takes to take the relationship to the "next level". If it is only a casual relationship, and not likely to become long-term serious, then you should not meet the kids at all. Only if it comes to the point of impending marriage, or you plan on living together. Otherwise, the kids can become very resentful of a string of boyfriends coming and going.
2006-11-11 08:56:21 · answer #6 · answered by Squirrley Temple 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I'm confused who are you the mother or the boyfriend. You asked the question as if you're the boyfriend but it leaves a doubt on if you're the mother Ha Ha!!
2006-11-11 09:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by artist_eye1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be introduced to the children when the mother is comfortable enough to introduce you to them.
2006-11-11 08:56:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was a divorced Mom and dating at one time and my dates picked me up at home and my kids were there when my date picked me up! So was the babysitter. I was brought home and the date left to his home after the date.
Am I old fashioned? Well I still stand bu my morals! Meet the kids when you pick your date up!
2006-11-11 08:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only when you know it will be a long term relationship. Kids can be affected by a mum who introduces a new uncle every weekend. xx
2006-11-11 08:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by starlet108 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋