Do I have a mental issue?

Question

I seem to never let things go,and it torrments my mind untill I break down in tears.It's like a sad movie going over and over in my mind,and the are usually really dumb things!
An example would be;
I went to a animal fun park in 2nd grade. I chose to go with a friend instead of my planned group with my mom.My moms group went to the water park, (that I really wanted to go to) and my friends group did nothing. I regret not going with my moms group,and have not let it go.
I am now much older and have still not forgotten this! This kind of behavior consists only for the things I regret,or if I did something wrong,even small.
Please,Please help me!

Answer 1

Okay, you already know it's time to let go of that 2nd grade incident. Don't let it color your existance for one moment longer.

You might need some cognitive therapy. A cognitive therapist helps you retrain your brain to interpret information in a more positive way. It is the same experience, but instead of saying "he never called me, he must hate me" you might say "he never called me, I guess he got busy and forgot". It helps you de-personalize the way you think about things.

Answer 2

I, too, sometimes obsess on little things I did "wrong" in my life, despite the fact that only I remember it, and it was nothing big. I have since come to understand this obsession might be due to a blood sugar imbalance I have probably had since birth (hypoglycemia). I inherited it from my father, but my mother probably had it too. Her obsession (addiction) was smoking.

Check out www.hufa.org, especially the symptoms link. If you see yourself in those symptoms, consider the self-test mentioned at the low blood sugar link, or in the book "Enter the Zone". It won't take away the sting and hurt of the memory, but it may help knowing your memory is not because of the "wrongness", but because of the way your body - and more importantly - brain handle blood sugar.

Feel free to e-mail me through my profile if you need further reassurance that there are others suffering like you, and that what you are experiencing is normal for a person with a conscience.

Answer 3

Hey, it is not wrong to recall events like these because they teach us lessons, but don't dwell on them. Think about the wonderful things that you could do for the future. While you are dwelling on the past, your present is being ignored and your future uncertain. You must savor and enjoy the present; because the past is money spent, the future is a post dated check and the present is the only cash you could spend, so, spend it wisely. Take hold of yourself and appreciate what you have now. Make way for people. There are less fortunate people than you are. Why don't you help your friends instead and forget about your troubles. Focus your energy on other people and I am sure, you'll be happier when you do this because it will give you a different sense of self-fulfillment.

Answer 4

It does seem as if you have some sort of generalized anxiety disorder or depression. I would definitely take the time to meet with a psychologist. When you start having obsessive thoughts and behaviors, and can interfere with your daily life: that's the definition of a mental illness.

There is so much you can you do nowadays with medications, psychotherapy,and behavioral therapy. Don't let it go any further, get help.

Answer 5

I dont believe you have mental issuses, but maybe you do have trouble with accepting things if you find they didnt go the way you wanted them too. You also may be over sensitive. I would talk to your family or a counsler if its eating at you and maybe they will be able to get you some self help books, I dont know your age but I would guess maybe some of what you are feeling now could be normal hormone changes.

Answer 6

It sounds as if you may have Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. You may want to check with a Psychiatrist for a diagnosis but it sounds like OCD. I have OCD and Bipolar Disorder. People with OCD tend to obsess over small things like you are with not going to the water park with your moms group.

Things are hard to forget when you have OCD because all you do is obsess over the smallest of little things.

Try talking to a doctor about it but there is a drug out there to help you with OCD only. It is called Luvox and it will relieve the symptoms of OCD. Good Luck

Answer 7

Have you ever told your mom this? I can't help but think it's not the fun you missed out on, but maybe you feel like you pushed your mom aside for a friend. Tell your mom about it, she probably doesn't realize how much of an impact that day had on you.
Feelings of guilt can be like a prison, but remember everyone has regrets.

Answer 8

Seems to me you need to make better choices based on what YOU want to do instead of what your friend wants to do.

Stop thinking people will like you more, or you have more value if you do what they want. That is people pleasing behavior and it is dangerous.

Now is the time to start to change that behavior before it gets you into bigger trouble, and it will. Read books on people pleasing, go to a counselor to discuss this, work on it, be aware of it, watch yourself around people and see how you behave. Catch yourself if you feel (that's the key, ask yourself how you FEEL and what YOU want) like you are uncomfortable.

Answer 9

Sounds like you have multiple deep rooted issues in your childhood.Seek professional help.My guess is that your are severly depressed.Possibly at some point only could visiouly see things in black and white(happend to me it sucks)Know that in the whole sceme of the universe ,no matter what you do, it will not change much.

Answer 10

U must STOP to live by your past expirience. It's a mental trap. Concentrate on your present life, your friends , your loved ones, your future. COMMON!!!
GET ALIVE.
PAST is PAST - WHAT's DONE is DONE - THERE IS NOTHING U CAN CHANGE THERE, BUT u can make a difference today 4 yourself, 4 your family and friends.