terms with it ? Knowing now that he was sexually abused badly as a kid and now he is a born again Christian, how can I accept the fact that he was a bonafide pig and predator ? But he is soo handsome and charming and we have been together for a yr and he has not cheated on me at all........ARGHHHHHH What can you do ? (Besides breaking up). PS We have no stds, and how can I keep from comparing myself to all those other women he was with ? HELP!
2006-11-11 00:25:05 · 19 answers · asked by Kendra H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all, if he slept with that many women, they were mostly one might stands and he probably doesn't even remember anything about most of them. Don't try to compare yourself to others, you are special for who you are and that's why he wants to be with you now, not any of those other girls who didn't even mean anything to him.
Secondly, I can understand how this would upset you, I most definitely would be. But if he is a changed man, a good man like you say he is, how can you persecute him for something that is in his past? If he is comfortable enough to open up to you about all this he obviously cares for you a great deal, why throw that away because of a ridiculous prejudice on your part?
If you really can't get past it then you will only end up hurting him and yourself in the long run, but make the effort to get past it... he seems like he's worth a little effort!!
2006-11-11 00:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by jenieatworld 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you any idea how absurd it is to think of those figures he gave you? He is claiming to have had intercourse with 192 women a year, 1.9 per day. That is ridiculous.
I was stationed as a young man in a country where sex was incredibly accessible, and I was normally sexual. I had sex with exactly 40 teen aged girls about my age. But that was over a two-year period when I was very young. I figured that I was doing a little more than one and a half new girls per month, with a steady girl on the side, and that was so awful that this is the first time I have ever told it to anyone.
If your guy is claiming that figure, he's worse than a lech, he is a liar and maybe just trying to impress you with some fantasy that he entertains. It cannot be true. Very few prostitutes sustain that figure for new encounters. Even they take a lot of time off.
2006-11-11 00:50:48 · answer #2 · answered by john s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He stopped at you , has to be something there that he didn't find with all the other women , you dint say how many men you have had sex with , for that matter is 2, 5 10 100 to many for him to handle. Why was he a pig having sex with women that want to have sex isn't being a pig. How about that charming part that you you liked you don't think that other women felt the same way you did when you first met him , he stopped at you leave it alone
2006-11-11 00:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by cctucker75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Witness to the actual moment that a bad decision was made....Dr. Phil would have collapsed over this one...I've always heard that people make bad decisions when they know the right answer all along - I've just never seen it this obvious before.
"...how can I accept the fact that he was a bonafide pig and predator ? But he is soo handsome and charming and we have been together for a yr and he has not cheated on me at all..."
Brace yourself....you are about to become # 2501
2006-11-11 00:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, ok, if that was true that yes, you truly need help and more importantly, so does he.
Being a Born Again Christian doesn't suddenly make him a good guy you know, although finding God is a very good start.
Besides breaking up huh? Oh well, that would be my first bit of advice, but seems like you need some extra drama in your life....counciling for the both of you, and not through his church either. Someone totally unbias.
Good luck and keep your eyes wide open with this stick of dynamite you're sticking with.
2006-11-11 00:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by BIZ Z 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's born returned so he's no longer the comparable individual he grew to become into earlier. He desires to be with you and there are actually not any STDs and you like him good?! what's the concern? i will permit you already know, there is no longer one. the type you ought to return to words with it particularly is this classic quote, that i'm gonna hammer, from Al Pacino is the devil's recommend, "Guilt (suspicion on your case) is nearly a bag of bricks, all you gotta down is set 'em down and walk away." Comprende' ?! he's attempting to be good and steer his existence in a competent direction now. do no longer turn him away now to boot, 2500 ?! If previous boy ain't pushing the envelope somewhat with that quantity you are able to probable learn some genuine relaxing stuff with him. purely permit or no longer it particularly is.
2016-10-03 12:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by wardwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So.....he's telling you this info??? That's like 2 girls a day!!
I hope either your exaggerating or he is.
Other than that......the past is the past......leave it there! And if you comparing yourself to girls you have never even met.....you have issues!! Stop it!!
Why do you want to break up if he hasn't cheated on you, is now a Christian, handsome and charming??
I don't get it.
If you are looking into the past as a reason to break up with him I'd be wondering why you aren't happy?? Sounds like your looking for an excuse to ditch him???
2006-11-11 00:42:15 · answer #7 · answered by red260z 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats 192 girls a year i find that really hard to believe i dont think i have sex with my boyfriend that many times in a year they say devide a mans number by 3 and thats how many girls hes slept with thats still 833 but its abit better than 2500 if yous are going to stay together you need to put all this behind you hes changed hes religion so obiviously hes done some soul searching and all thats behind him and he has you now forget about the past and live for the future
2006-11-11 00:38:10 · answer #8 · answered by keevy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok he was abused, it sounds like he has healed and moved past it. The past is the past and we can't live there. Keep using condoms cause your ok now, but that doesn't mean it will stay that way. The HIV virus can hide in the body for years. Why do you feel like you have to compare yourself to those others. He's been there done that, if he didn't like it he wouldn't stay.
2006-11-11 00:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should sit him down for another talk. Sorry, but I don't buy his story of 2500 girls. Did he actually keep a score-board ? I definitely wouldn't believe him. There's a strong possibility of several kids turning up, looking for their daddy, if what he says is true. Better be prepared to be step-mother
2006-11-11 00:35:10 · answer #10 · answered by Taylor29 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋