right now i'm 16 years old, i'm brown and asian, i've started a new sixth form school and have made great friends the thing is all my life i feel i haven't been able to be part of be friends with the girls who are blonde and popular. i try to speak to them but they ignore what i say sometimes. there are really nice ones but now when the birthday parties start and people get invited i am never invited, why are people like that? theres a girl's party coming up, i'm thinking of askin her if i could go to her party, do you think she would mind??
2006-11-11 00:11:56 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You say you have already made great friends there so why not just stick to being friends with them. Don't worry about the girls who don't like you, they sound rather childish anyway.
Just be yourself and if people don't like you don't worry about it, doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you.
Have fun with your existing friends!
2006-11-11 00:23:38 · answer #1 · answered by tangomango 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have made great friend like you say you have, why are you concerned with being friends with so called 'popular girls'?.Stick to the friends you have, because when the girls who are being bitches leave school, they wont have any real friends left, they never do. Why would you want to talk to girls who are ignorant and feel the need to ignore you? And it really doesn't matter what colour your skin is, although you feel the need to mention it , and it doesn't matter if these girls are blond either, in every school you'll find girls like this, and let me assure you, they are not all blond and blue eyed.I wouldn't be concerned about parties with people who sound so shallow, and whatever you do, DO NOT ask for invites to parties.Hold your head up and be proud of who you are, stop wanting to be like other people, and enjoy the friends you do have.I'm sure in 10 years most of them will still be genuine friends.Good luck.
2006-11-11 00:23:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take this and believe it:
You are not alone. When I was your age (so long ago that I can't count that high, even if I take my shoes and socks off) I was the same.
I was part of the "nerdy group" - you know, the kids that wear glasses, opt out of sports to take extra maths lessons, wear even more glasses and get beaten up by the "hard lads".
The fact that you are brown/asian is irrelevant, unless you get really sh1tty in public about the veil argument that's currently going on. (You're entitled to an opinion, whatever it is, but not to get high-handed and self-righteous).
Strangely, over the years I've bumped into a few of those "hard lads" - they all wanted to know why we wouldn't let them into our "clique" at school. The answer is easy - just ask. The worst that can happen is that one of them will say no, but the rest of them will be thinking "yes" and you'll get into the group eventually.
2006-11-11 00:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously these people that you strive so hard to be friends with are very superficial and arrogant and in my opinion are no friends material. I feel quite sad that you mentioned your race? Why should that matter? You are a normal, unique person just like everyone else and your creed and race should play no part in gaining friendships whatoever. Ignore these so called "blonde and popular girls" - they are not worthy of your friendship. They are probably the type who are too pre-occupied with their exterior appearance and having boyfriends, as oppossed to studying hard- not the type of people you'd want to associate with. Just be yourself, and you mentioned that you've made great friends, so stick with those that do want and appreciate your friendship. Don't let anybody make you feel inferior.
2006-11-11 00:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by laska 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH YEAH i prefer to connect! i'm purely contacts with the popular team like B.J., Emma, Ry Bread, unique, and Vee yet i'm no longer "in it". Come one Glen Coco, we are going to rule Y!A collectively.
2016-10-03 12:42:34 · answer #5 · answered by wardwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16 being part of the 'in crowd' seems very important to you. The problem is you cannot force people into allowing you to be part of their circle. I know it can be lonely at times but maybe someone is trying to tell you something.
2006-11-11 00:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by Scatty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't ask her if you could come, just buy her a birthday card and hope she invites you, but i really wouldn't worry about girls like that as long as you are content and happy with the friends you have let them get on with it afterall they are missing out on being friends with you, as you sound a lovely girl.
2006-11-11 00:19:14 · answer #7 · answered by ♥fluffykins_69♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd advise against it, she probably won't invite you & she may tell everyone.
The good news is that you will soon be old enough to go to college & leave all this childish cr*p behind.
2006-11-11 00:17:26 · answer #8 · answered by Well, said Alberto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont have to hang with the popular girls to have friends. cause most of those girls act like jerks. you want a true friend
2006-11-11 01:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends - what's she like? If she's a nice girl then go ahead, you may just make a friend.
2006-11-11 00:16:12 · answer #10 · answered by Hannah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋