Recently,sparks have been flying between my boss and I.We do crazy things by mail but that is where it ends.We are both married and will never consider leaving our partners but it's getting so heated up!Am frantic to stop it!
2006-11-10 22:26:25 · 17 answers · asked by delaw 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There are some lines i don't cross.
Dating anyone at work is a no no.
Sure at work things fly around in the work place...
But you are responding to them, in other words accepting the game and playing with him in this flirting..
Maybe the best bet would be. dont respond every email or message that is sent. It will die down slowly..
I can understand you dont want it to put up a brick wall..
As You might loose your job. But at the same time..
if he presses you for a reply, Just brushing it off as a joke.
This can work just as well. It saves face for him as well as yourself..
Be careful. You dont want to scream sexual harassment..
Not when your responding and playing the game with him.
Because if you do, he will throw it back to you.
So my suggestion would be, Just don't respond as much.. find work .. make yourself busy. And maybe find another job in the mean time.
Blessings ALD
2006-11-14 21:31:23 · answer #1 · answered by A Lady Dragon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply end the e mail thing. Say that you have now set up a blog and that it is better that we do not continue the conversation as the world will be able to read it.
Or pick on a crazy point that really infringes on your privacy. Say that it will be in our best interests to stop e mailing each other in case we make complete fools of ourselves.
2006-11-11 00:45:41 · answer #2 · answered by geoff p 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
By saying NO THANK YOU... Dating a boss is pretty lame. When the heat is over how are you going to look at him in the face and not feel embarrassed ? Have you thought of what your boss may do when you try to "break up" with him? What if he turns hostile? He does have an email trail of your acceptances and can use it against you if you try to file a sexual harrassment claim against him. Use your brain... You are not an animal; control your urges...
2006-11-11 00:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
as in someone trying to get you to try drugs "JUST SAY NO". these crazy things you do bu mail are emails?ive hears and know of people that have MET???? others online. many are disasters and most are married. apparently you are just wanting to get attention that you no longer receive at home. but if you have children it would hurt them if your husband ever found out.i would do anything and everything to stop this. it is wrong to do this and just tell the other party that you have had enough.remember your wedding vows.
2006-11-10 22:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should explain to your boss exactly how you feel.
That you are married and you would never want to loose your family or your job and im sure he doesnt want the same thing.
Maybe just cooling it off again byt not showing too much intrest him but jsut enough to keep your job but not in that sexual way.
if hes an understandng person im sure he would feel the same way.
2006-11-10 23:28:01 · answer #5 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May I suggest that you have a long heart-to-heart talk with your boss and explain to him how much you value his friendship and look upon him as your kinda elder brother, ma'am?
That way, you'll be discouraging further advances and also not hurting him in the process.
It's just what I think would be appropriate, ma'am. I'm no Expert, however.
Do have a nice day.
2006-11-10 22:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by Daimyo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him no. Tell him it has gone far enough. Do not fall off the cliff; if you do when you hit bottom it will smart terribly. Do not do anything like this again. You are a married women and should not be involved in this king of email horseplay. There is nothing innocent about it.
2006-11-10 22:33:25 · answer #7 · answered by Preacher 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Keep a picture of your hubby on your desk and desktop so you can see him. Think of his expresssion if he was watching what you were doing? No don't flip over his picture. If you get involved with your boss and it goes bad like it probably will then you have the chance to lose your job and your hubby...Ouch..
2006-11-11 00:04:38 · answer #8 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad, bad idea!! If you have an affair and it ends, ( and it will end sometime) where will you be then? Who do you think will get to keep their job and which one will lose it? Are you willing to take that chance. Not to mention what will happen to your family if you are caught. And most people do get caught. Think this through thoroughyly before acting on impulse.
2006-11-11 00:51:36 · answer #9 · answered by sheeny 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You invited it;you stop it. A man generally will f-ck anything he can get away with. A woman won't mess on her husband because she loves him. A man doesn't fool around on his wife because of what he stands to lose, if he gets caught.Make your intentions crystal clear; he may not get it at first.
2006-11-14 19:50:28 · answer #10 · answered by firestarter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋