Why is it always about sex?
I'm in my 30s and men younger and older ask me out all the time. Men tell me that I am very attractive, sexy and intelligent.
I eventually won't hear from most of them because I won't let them come to my house or me to theirs.
I've tried the "I promise I'll just hang out with you and not try anything." But I learned long ago that it doesn't work because men are always all over me right away.
Why can't men wait? I'm a woman and not a girl, so I know the game.
Men, not boys, what's up?
2006-11-10 22:09:46 · 10 answers · asked by indepwman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Your answers are hope that there are men looking for a woman like me. Thanks ladies for reading and responding. I know you understand my frustration.
2006-11-11 00:29:53 · update #1
For some strange reason some men or "boys" have this fantasy of having sex with a really attractive woman, and instead of treating the woman with respect and dignity, they try to do whatever it takes to get them in the sack. Not all men are like that though, I myself judge attractiveness by a person's personality and values. I'd much rather have to wait a while for sex than to just hop into bed with a woman without really getting to know her. Sex is easy to find, but a good woman with a great personality, and someone whom you can depend on to be there when you need them to be is very hard to find and should be treasured. That's what I think baffles most men today, because modern society places so much emphasis on looks instead of what really matters and we as a society have been brainwashed into thinking that all there is to beautiful women is what's underneath their clothing. Hope you have better luck in the future finding someone who is willing to take the time to really get to know you and appreciate who you are and what you are all about. - Good Question. -James
2006-11-10 22:21:21 · answer #1 · answered by zekemilli4 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look I understand how you feel. I used to be this way until I found out that a women wanted to be treated like a person and not some love slave fantasy that you read about in playboy. You have to figure out your man in the first few minutes. For the Men reading this...this is axactly why we have problems finding women. If we actualy cared to spend the time to know them, hold them, laugh and cry with them the rest would follow. This pmo as well. Try to keep the alcohle away when you are dating next time and stick with coffee instead. Alcohole makes some men horny. You will figure it all out in time and don't wory I am sure there is some man for you out there worthy of your love and atentio. Good luck
2006-11-11 06:18:56 · answer #2 · answered by Roger89 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's nice to know I'm not the only person to have experienced this. My idea is that in every relationship there is a 'prize' and a 'lucky one'. There is a balance between them, as each will have experienced being in the opposite position, and so will respect that. I think that girls like you, me, and possibly chinarose have spent a good deal of time as the prize. At the moment, I'm trying to be the lucky one. It's making a nice change, and ultimately gives me a bit more control over the speed i want to take in the relationship.
2006-11-11 06:17:18 · answer #3 · answered by talz_talz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey im a 23 yr old married male and yeh even though im a male i agree with ya there are some men out there that are just plain ***holes who do the wrong thing n go out just to get women into bed my whole life ive watched women around me get trapped by this they go home with someone or watever and the next day they are talking to me about how much they regret doing this and the men well there thinking who cares another one to my list (i really do find this offense that men can do this to women and spoilt it for the good men out there that are genuinly trying to find love or someone just to have fun with and enjoy life
i could go on for ages about how some men out there can be mean but i dont wanna annoy ya so ill say in conclusion that some men dont care whilst the rest of us arent only interested in gettin a woman into bed
2006-11-11 06:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by mustang_rws 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry, you wanted answers from guys, but can i give my opinion too please?
I think it's a problem with the current culture and attitude towards sex in general. it's no longer considered to be the ultimate joining of two people in a partnership of love and meaning. Sex is now considered to be a pass time no more meaningful to many people as seeing a movie together or going to the bowling alley.
People like you are a treasure, the world needs more people who value the commitment that having sex represents in the world.
2006-11-11 06:16:40 · answer #5 · answered by rchlbsxy2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you find the right man for you, your soulmate, he will wait. It happened to me.
Join a serious on-line dating service so you can be very specific about what you want in a man. That's how I found my wonderful husband.
I wish you love and happiness.
2006-11-11 14:40:05 · answer #6 · answered by Belindita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are men.
2006-11-11 06:14:05 · answer #7 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thank you for the invitation to read this. i totally agree with you.
2006-11-11 06:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as johnny lee said, "you've been lookin for love in all the wrong places"
2006-11-11 06:14:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
AMEN TO THAT!!!!!
I respect it.
2006-11-11 06:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by Miss Interpreted 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋