help...i cant get over the break up of my relationship. id been with my boyfriend for 3 years, i found out from someone else that he cheated on me and my world has fallen apart. its been a month now and i feel no better. what can i do. i still love him but i cant b with him now. trust is very important to me.
2006-11-10 21:27:58 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he confessed only after confronting him about what id been told. he kept it secret for 5 months.
2006-11-10 21:39:11 · update #1
so sorry that your feeling like this....this experience will make you a stronger person...he's hurt you and deceived you so you must continue without him, trust is important in a relationship and he broke your trust...give it time and you'll start to feel better, right now you feel like someones punched you in the stomach so just take each day at a time and try to avoid him if you can...if you ever get back with him it will not be the same as it was before and never will be, you will always be wondering where he is and who he's with, so stay strong and in time you'll feel different about him....it Will come to a stage when you say to yourself...(why was i with this guy) once a cheater always a cheater hun....get someone that's going to be with you, love you and stay with you...you did good by dumping this guy....hugs........x
2006-11-10 21:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he did cheat on you? If you are, like he confessed, and if you can't forgive him then you will have to move on. There will be someone out there for you but not until you can move on from this relationship. Amonth is not very long to get over a relationship that meant that much to you. It could take 6 month to a year or longer. Go through the grieving period of this relationship and you will be stronger when you finally come out of the other end.
2006-11-10 21:33:56 · answer #2 · answered by patsy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the most difficult thing to work on in a realtionship is trust, and if you have issues about trust, then the quickest way to destroy a relationship is if one partner distroys that trust. Same happened to me in a relationship, i tried to work through it, but it was never the same, i tried to put it behind me, but i could never trust him again, so i held back in the relationship and was suspicious and mistrusting of him.......two years later he did the same, which ended that relationship. I always remember thinking to myself how i had wasted the last two years because i think if someone does it once then theres a high risk that they will do it again. I know its hard and very emotional if u still love someone, but sometimes it isnt enough, to justify staying with someone. Move on and you will be surprised, the saying behind every closed door, theres another one that opens, good luck and i hope you find happiness x
2006-11-10 21:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ahaaaa, this is a sure sign of Griebaturism, very rare, but I have come upon it before, not here in England but while touring the Keys in Florida, one of the islands is called Marathon, there they have a family who are called the Griebats, this family have been inbreeding for close to three centuries, in some severe cases namely one in France shortly after the first world war, they hung Herbert Montaray Griebats, thinking him a monkey, sounds crazy I know. The condition of Griebaturism manifests itself by way of covering either parts or in rare cases all of the body with excess hair. I would suggest not considering building a family as the horror of bearing a chimp like child to be too much to bear. Lots of luck to you
2006-11-10 22:36:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, one month is no time at all to feel strong enough to move forward.
You must be prepared for this feeling to last a while, but thats not to say that you will remain unhappy throughout. Time really IS a great healer (its also a pain in the ar** having to wait for it) but it WILL get easier i promise you.
Love is a very powerful emotion. And remember -- Love deeply and passionaltely. You may get hurt along the way but its the only way to live life to the full.
Wishing you every success, my heart goes out to you
2006-11-10 22:28:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you genuinely cant trust him anymore..move on....5 months is a long time to keep something like that a secret...he didnt try to deny it when you confronted him....i think you need to talk to him if you still love him...theres no harm in at least trying to give it another go....if hess grovelling...listen to him....if you dont feel you can take him back tell him never to come near you again...and move on....
its easy for us to say it...but harder for you to do it...
is the other girl involved a close friend of yours...or a friend of his...if shes your friend...shes an even bigger b****....than if she was his.....you need to do what you feel is right for you...if you feel you can forgive him and move on...do that...if you feel you cant tell him clearly youve made your mind up and theres nothing he can do to change it.....make him promise (if you take him back)that if he ever is seen even flirting with another woman....that he has to go no questions asked....make it clear to him that he is only a short leash...be the boss....and try to trust him again...it might take a long time for the trust to come back....but if you truly love him...and he grnuinely is sorry for what he has done then it should work......on the other hand...once a cheat always a cheat hunny!!!!
good luck
follow your gut instincts on him....not your heart on this one.....thay make different decisions!
2006-11-10 22:02:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think first of all you need give yourself time and space to get over the hurt he has caused you. And once you feel better and you still love him only then you will hopefully start to trust him again. I hope everything works out for you all right but all you need now is time and space to focus on what you really want.
2006-11-10 23:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sympathies, but take a step back and look at it logically....
he cheated on you, if you take him back he'll think he can get away with it again, .... as much as you love him, he can't love you as much ..... as he wouldn't have cheated otherwise.... he has done the most hurtful thing by cheating on you
a relationship is built on trust and if that is lacking then the foundations are rocky.... and the inevitable collapse will happen.
you deserve someone who will treat you right and not cheat on you ...everyone deserves that,
I'm sure there's someone out there that'll treat you properly and make you incredibly happy.
your bound to feel down about whats happened, but don't blame yourself...... in time you'll get over it and then the 'milk tray man' will come along
good luck
2006-11-10 23:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was with my boyfriend for 3 years when he dumped me for no reason at all! My world fell apart and I was physically ill because of it. You will find someone else. It took me months to get over it. You will never stop loving him but the hurt will soon leave you. You will find someone who deserves you. Just hang in there because I know how tough it can be. Dont give up
2006-11-10 22:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jinx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Ever heard of the saying if u love someone set them free?
I truely believe that if u let him go and accept his unfaithfulness u will be able to move on.
U say u never want him back if so y r u so hung up on him?
Get back out there met new people and enjoy life, dont let his awful actions beat u down.
U R STRONG dont forget it, go to sleep tonight with the thought that tommorrow u will feel better.
Rx
2006-11-10 23:43:52 · answer #10 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋