I'm having relationship troubles?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for 2 years now. I love him so much but we always seem to be arguing about silly things. For instance it took me ages for him to agree to go on holiday just us two but then as soon as we get invited to a group hoilday he jumps at the chance. When I ask him about it he says he feels like he is missing out on living life to the full! Not sure if it is me taking it the wrong way or if im the problem :-( please give me advice

Yes he does make advances with me. He isnt really shy with me. We get on like that fine. Just really confuses me and I dont know where I stand anymore with him. If I try talk he gets mad

Answer 1

We always find something wrong with whatever situation we're in- your boyfriend sounds like he needs some room/latitude to check out things. Don't suffocate him. He probably loves you very much but right now is feeling constrained by the relationship. Best thing you can do is let him know you love him and allow him some opportunity do what he wants. It maybe doesn't seem fair, but it's a chance for you to do some thinking/living for yourself ,too. It is said ,"Set it free and if it's real, it'll return to you sooner or later". That's what good love is- trusting, enduring, and patient as well as self-sacrificing.

Answer 2

You don't mention his age, but it sounds like he may be feeling a little stifled in the relationship and is missing the freedom of being single? I don't think it is something you have done wrong, rather just a phase he is going through. You could try suggesting this to him and ask if that's how he is feeling. Try being understanding and supportive and maybe the two of you could find a way to work through his feelings together. Hope it all works out.

Answer 3

You should look at the fact that he wants to have company because he thinks that if you have friends around it would help you guys from fighting too much. Yes it is a fact that if you guys are around friends your concentration would not be on each other. Go out with friends because you guys are probably spending too much time together and when you get too comfy you get board so if you can, try missing one another and you'll see. I had the same problems before and guess what he missed me and when we had a lot to talk about all of the quarreling stopped and we wondered how could we stay away.

Answer 4

Ahaaaa, this is a sure sign of Griebaturism, very rare, but I have come upon it before, not here in England but while touring the Keys in Florida, one of the islands is called Marathon, there they have a family who are called the Griebats, this family have been inbreeding for close to three centuries, in some severe cases namely one in France shortly after the first world war, they hung Herbert Montaray Griebats, thinking him a monkey, sounds crazy I know. The condition of Griebaturism manifests itself by way of covering either parts or in rare cases all of the body with excess hair. I would suggest not considering building a family as the horror of bearing a chimp like child to be too much to bear. Lots of luck to you

Answer 5

Wow. . yeah! Scorpio woman right here, I met a Virgo Christmas Eve. i'm incredibly digging him and from all alerts i assume he likes me too-- he's often coming over and calling. yet he's beginning off to blow me already, he's so FROSTY, no emotion or hobby in any respect, this is problematic to verify him and he can say issues in the main brutal way. . then turn around and be candy like it did not take place. yet my moods have been kinda off recently and this is not working for me i don't comprehend why I take his comments and coolness so own recently, yet I shop thinking "no. . that's not working for me. . "

Answer 6

Well if you cannot sit down and communicate with him without him getting mad the relationship will never work. Seems like he is just interested in sex. I would really look into this and if he is not going to change, I would find someone else that would have not trouble communicating with you and respect you and would treat you like a woman is supposed to be treated.

Answer 7

Sounds like he's not very interested in the intimacy side of things any more. Back up, give him some space and wait for him to start missing you a bit more.

It sounds like he's not to committed to be honest. In which case you may need to start a mor epermanent "wind down".

Good luck

Answer 8

He's feeling trapped in a relationship where he's too young or too young at heart.

There you have a guy who needs to go out and be a single man again, he needs to have fun, sleep around, get mashed with the lads and i firmly belive that all of us need to have a period in our lives where we let our hair down.

I think your just in a diffrent place to him, ready for some commitment, security and in need of that settled feeling. it's just not going to happen with this boyfriend.

This is will just come back again and again untill it splits you up, why not call it a day now and separate on good terms?

Answer 9

You dont say how old he is. SOme guys dont grow up until the late 20's (if then) and like to have this group thing going on with their mates. Try talking to him xx

Answer 10

Tell him how he makes you feel. Try talking about it. Be willing to listen and make some compromises. If you've been trying to do this for two years you should consider going your separate ways.