okay, i had a bad break up a lil while back - few months and i was really into himi know nothing can work out between us and ive been in the recienving end of the pain: its been abt 5 months since the breajk up
ever since alot of guys have asked me out, but i cant seem to find a need to go out with anyone, but some were really nice guys: however i am still healing my wounds that were caused to me in the previous relstionship
deep inside, i do wish to find someone and go out and just make sure that botth me and the guy i go out with are happy
yesterday, a friend lectured me , she sais that i keep leading guys on, and then saying no to them, and i need to go out with someone now its high time. however i am not emotionally totally over my ex yet, so i just cant do that, and i do not wanna start a new relationship cause i wont be able to put my heart and soul into it
therefore i only want to start a new relationship, when i am really ready, and right now, i am just not
2006-11-10 20:57:15 · 10 answers · asked by Franky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
can someone please tell me what is the right thing for me to do at this point of time!!??
what do i do abt what my friend said??
what am i suppose to do abt my feelings for my ex, nothin can ever happen, he has someone else??
how do i find someone, plz help ne outt
2006-11-10 20:58:19 · update #1
well for 1 its never easy to get into a relationship after any breakup, and you should just be friends with everyone until you know your ready.... believe me when you find the right guy you will know, and its going to be hard to trust anyone...everyone goes through this so in a sense everyone is right in whatever answer they post on here...
2006-11-10 21:08:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay look I'm not sure how old you are but really if it's been 5 months and this guy is with someone else, you need to pull yourself together and drag yourself out of the hole you are in.
We all have been through relationship problems like yours but at the end of the day, no amount of advice will help you because you seem to be in denial. Girl, you need to be strong...stop being in denial, hold your head up high and spend more time with your girlfriends...perhaps make a rule that your ex is NOT to be mentioned by you or any of your friends will help you forget him. Start doing fun things with the girls and before you know it someone else better will come along that will love you for who you are.
Pull yourself together girlfriend...life is to short to be hanging onto something that is not there anymore....GOOD LUCK....I know you can do it!
2006-11-10 21:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
only time and your courage can heal a broken heart..
i completely understand why you don't want to be in a relation now.. but going out with a guy doesn't mean that you are going to be with that guy in a relation right? going out with a guy can be only for fun, BUT always keep in mind that you need to be clear of what your situation is.. tell him that you are not ready to be in a relationship, you need time and all you need now is a good friend..
I think you did the right thing turning the guys down.. if you are not ready to be in a relationship then just dont be in one or else you will hurt both you and your partner..
about your friend, I think she is seeing it from the way other people sees you.. you always lead a guy on then turn him down and that is a bad thing to do so as your friend, she tells you that..
like I said before, if you are not ready to be in a relatioship then dont be in it, just have fun BUT dont keep leading guys on.. again, be clear about what you want from them and if a guy understands and waits for you till you are ready, you will know that he is the perfect one for you..
2006-11-10 22:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by L-j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should be able to get over with your ex. Just start talking with different guys as friend and continue doing it till you are sure about someone who can be your real love. Then go out with him and have a relation with him.
2006-11-10 21:03:15 · answer #4 · answered by nandru_22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly...plan a trip...long or short doesn't matter...just get the 'heck outta dodge'...give yourself room to breath...space to heal...mostly..find you again...since from what you wrote...you put your heart and soul as well as spirit into someone elses hands...time to take back for yourself..what they didn't treasure or appreciate...rediscover yourself...learn to like YOU...with or without someone else along...think how much more of yourself you will bring to your nect relationship knowing all the while...on your own...you have worth...so ? is....the beach...or the mountains:) Enjoy! Oh...P.S....if you go by car...grab that wonderully optinionated friend of yours...and say 'ok...your right.. pack your bag and lets let lose..and YOUR PAYING for 1/2 the gas!' :)
2006-11-10 21:16:01 · answer #5 · answered by Sheharaza 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 12:38:49 · answer #6 · answered by sather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all you dont find some one till you are ready or it just wont work out for you,as far as your friend says well if a guy can waite for you to get ready then go for it but make sure he understands that he has to waite for you to be ready,and for finding some one im available...lol
2006-11-10 21:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by thatguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to go out with guys and start a relationship with them right away, go out, have fun, and if someone comes along ... Good for you!!!
2006-11-10 21:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
take your own sweet time to "Heal your broken heart" ..then go out with someone else & tell your friend that you are not yet ready.
2006-11-10 21:03:15 · answer #9 · answered by d game guru 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
2006-11-10 21:05:11 · answer #10 · answered by Portuga 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋