I'm 22 years old and a virgin still. My boyfriend for almost a year hasn't really laid a hand on me sexually. He isn't a virgin but his last relationship ended up being all about sex and he was tired of it. He wanted an emotional truely loving relationship. If anything I'm more aggressive than he is cause I'm curious and he always tries to cool me down.
But I am curious. How can I make my first time not so painful? I've had a guy finger me after hour of foreplay but it hurt a lot and he got like less than an inch in. And my boyfriend has even said my vaginia is really small compared to his exs's, when he finally gave me oral.
I was wondering how can I make it less painful and more enjoyable when I'm ready to go all the way?
2006-11-10 19:42:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Vodka. That'll make it more or less painless.
2006-11-10 20:00:10 · answer #1 · answered by retardedmonkeey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to have to get that first time over with. There is no way around the pain. If you think it would help to take a shot of liquor or something. And you should be in a dominate position so you can have control. But I can tell you that after your first time you should wait a week or two before you do it again because it may be sore in there. After that you should feel no more pain.
2006-11-11 03:58:09 · answer #2 · answered by I know EVERYTHING! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you and my girlfriend have the same problem 3 days ago. her vagina is just small, no one has ever finger her, when he saw my thing she said that it looks like a monster just looking at the size, she said that it would really hurt if i get it in. i said that dont be afraid it only hurts in the start. when she decided that she wanted it in, i lay down and she was over me, she did it so that she can control the pressure. not even an inch is going in, she already screamed so lound, but she still wants it in so she endure the pain and make it. she said that it only hurt for 1 minute.
since then she always go over me and stick my thing inside her, it doesn't hurt anymore for her. as a matter of fact she loves it now. almost everynight she would call me and do it.
dont be scared. you can do it. just like my girlfriend
2006-11-11 04:08:22 · answer #3 · answered by sharingan_raff 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first time is always uncomfortable, but sex is a fact of life. Think about it - everyone has sex at some point or other. It really isn't that bad. But to minimize the pain, just make sure your boyfriend is gentle. (personally, I was compltely drunk, so I don't remember much!) But if it hurts to get half a finger in, maybe you should relax a little, and if that doesn't work, get checked to make sure everything's ok.
2006-11-11 03:48:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
It will be painful your time, and second, and third and ...well...you know. My point is, there really is no way around it. The forepaly and all, really does help, but it won't totally the pain from penetration. This is something you'll have to go with and just take it easy and slow, and yes, it'll still hurt.
Rest assured, sex does get better, and it keeps getting better.
2006-11-11 03:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's not as painful as you'll expect it to be. All you can do is relax and take it slow. Communicate with each other meaning tell him if it's hurting or when he can go a little further. A lot of it is mental...if you go into your first time thinking it's going to hurt then it will...but if your calm about it and don't rush you'll be fine.
2006-11-11 03:48:07 · answer #6 · answered by mthcowgurl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seriously. Talk to him about your concerns. When you both feel it's right, talk about your concerns. He, as well as you, can make you feel at ease. It may hurt. Go slow. Tell him to be gentle. Use lube if you must. But it's going to have to be discussed between the two of you. Don't just slam it home like your trying to load a gun.
2006-11-11 03:48:18 · answer #7 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It will be painful, but take it slow, and use allot of lubricant.
2006-11-11 04:40:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go slow and take your time alot of oral will help need some more pointers look me up i'll help any way i can
2006-11-11 03:50:02 · answer #9 · answered by bill h 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
ARE YOU SURE HE WASN'T FINGERING YOUR BUTT HOLE. i MEAN YOU ARE A VIRGIN MAYBE YOU DON'T KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
2006-11-11 03:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋