I'm 20 yrs old and my husband gets back from Iraq in march. i was thinking about having a baby but im not sure since my husband will still be in the marines and possibly deploying again. Also there is the question of money and schooling later when we come home after his active duty is up.
2006-11-10 19:17:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
How long have you been married? You have to give you and your husband time to get to know each other WELL! A baby will put a lot of stress on a marriage. My wife and I have 4 children and I dont think we would be doing so well had we not know each other for years before we got married. My wife and I have triplets and a 4 year old, that puts a huge strain on a marriage but we know and love each other so much we are able to handle it.
2006-11-10 19:31:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would wait. There is so much responsibility that comes with having a child. I'm not saying that you wouldn't be able to handle it, it would just be so much easier if you waited for your husband to be home for a good while. It would be easier with his help, and I'm sure he wouldn't want to miss baby's first anything! Also, with school, if you had a degree in something you would be able to provide your baby with everything they could want or need because of the money coming in from your career. Just something to think about. I wish you the best.
2006-11-11 03:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly I would wait if I were you, give it time you are still young. Do the things that you want to do first. you have to consider that if he does get deployed again you are going to be alone with that baby, i love my son with all of my heart and am with him all the time but sometimes having a little one is stressful and can be a bit too much for one person to handle by themselves. give it time dont rush into having a baby just yet wait a while and then start talking about it
2006-11-11 03:21:57 · answer #3 · answered by ~ Lace ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is alot more to question then that. I had a female friend who did time in Desert Storm and Bosnia and she now has 3 children all with serious health problems. I would get genetic counseling before hand because you just don't know.
My BF hubby did time in various locations around the world and they have an autistic child, so I just would suggest you do some talking to doctors first IMO
2006-11-11 03:21:56 · answer #4 · answered by heartache 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned in life that if you can't make up your mind, don't make a decision. Set the thoughts aside and eventually life will tell you the answer
It might be wise to wait. Or the baby could be the biggest blessing ever, during this channenging time in life. Either way please think of it as a positive way. The little blessing that will bring you joy soon, or the bundle of joy that will bring you joy once you are settled and done with school. Either way you win.
And thank you for you and your husbands commitment to our country. God Bless you Both.
2006-11-11 03:28:08 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a baby is a personal choice. You should be asking this question to your husband. Consult with him. Is the timing right? Are you both financially, emotionally, and physically prepared for the challenges that lay ahead?
Think it through, don't rush into it.
Remember that babies don't come with instructions nor a receipt! =)
2006-11-11 06:19:28 · answer #6 · answered by GlitzNGlam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same question 5 yrs ago. now my baby is 4 and i have a 2 yr old. and im wondering what the hell happened to my life. if you have to question it dont do it, you will know when the right time to have a baby comes.
2006-11-11 03:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by silentdreamin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say wait but really it is up to you two to make that choice. I think when he gets home you two should sit down and really talk about it. Keep an open mind on both sides of the subject. Good luck :)
2006-11-11 03:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by hollie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A child one gets at the youth time is like the arrowos on the hand of a hunter. So having a child at this age is the best time. Even thougth you are looking forward to raising fund but put that idea in your plan.
2006-11-11 03:23:15 · answer #9 · answered by mtula ikufa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A little child should ideally have both mother and father around. I'd wait. I think you will both make teriific parents
2006-11-11 03:26:42 · answer #10 · answered by clueless_nerd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋