Hey how would you deal with someone who is rude?

Question

like someone judging your education? your ability to do your job and do it right! answering your questions with nasty remarks that are not called for????

Answer 1

I just smile sweetly at them and say "Thank you. Have a nice day."

It's a sly way of telling them to piss off. The contrast between your ultra-niceness and their rudeness will point out to them how rude they're being.

Answer 2

The best way depends on context. I will give an example of what I mean I won a best speech at a debate competition which meant I got to go into the inner sanctum of a very snobby debating society. People were extremely rude and judgmental to me, to the extent they turned their backs on me when talking and tried to make me feel excluded. Maybe it was a bit extreme, but I stayed at the meeting out of stubborness if nothing else and then there was a point in the evening where someone who was new to the society would make a speech. I stood up as their newest member and spoke about how I had fared on my first evening I kept it short as I had a fairly hostile audience and ended with this quote:
'The opposite of love is not hate, it's indifference.
The opposite of art is not ugliness, it's indifference.
The opposite of faith is not heresy, it's indifference.
And the opposite of life is not death, it's indifference.'
I kept coming back to the debating society, though never to the inner sanctum again. My entry speech had not got a standing ovation, in fact after I had finished people went back to their conversations, but I had made my point in a simple but effective way and if just one person in that room had listened and made a change in their attitude towards newcomers to the group then it would have been a useful exercise.
I guess my point is I find being calm, but to the point in a verbal manner can be 10 times more effective then any other way of communicating your frustration or annoyance at someone elses ignorance. Sometimes walking away can be a good thing as it gives the other person nothing to feed their ignorance off. As I said it can depend on context. The main thing I would say is we are all individuals in our own right and all entitled to be proud of who we are wherever we come from.

Answer 3

The bible says a gentle answer turnith away wrath. But rude people that just plan don't like you for no reason su*ck. So, the only thing I have found that works is ignoring them as much as humanly possible and don't be nice to them even for a second cuz they are just putting a mask. If they ask you for any favor do not do it cuz if you do it probably wont change they're attitude toward you. I wouldn't say be rude back cuz it will probably start a fight. Ignoring is way of social shaping and it works on most people.

Answer 4

I get the rude remarks everyday. My family have restaurants and I managed for them. Customer always think I am uneducated that's why I worked at restaurant. ( I am a college graduated). They always speak English slowly b/c I am Chinese and think I can't understand or find it VERY surprised that I speak English w/o an accent. That just tells you that there are many ignorant people out there.

Answer 5

Usually I'd say pay no attention whatsoever, and don't let them get the satisfactiction of seeing you upset. They want to provoke a reaction. However if it is getting to the point where it is really affecting you, let it be known, but approach it in a calm manner. It all depends on who the person/persons in question is/are. Just say something along the lines of "I don't appreciate for the way you are talking to me" or simply say something like "there's no need for that attitude."

Answer 6

I am not really religious but my favorite thing to say is, God is the only one who can judge. Also, don't get nasty with them because you would be lowering yourself to their standards. Obviously they feel inferior to you and they have poor self esteem because happy normal people don't put others down. So right away their behavior tells me that they feel threatened by you. The nicer you are to them the worse they will feel about themselves. I also would talk to them in a lower voice and calm so that they don't know they got to you.

Answer 7

I have to deal with a lot of rude people since I work in customer service. and have told several, I'm sorry if you are having a bad day, But do not come in here and take it out on me...others I have asked if they are really that ignorant..or did their parents forget to teach them manners--
rude people annoy me to no end. A lot of people just don't seem to care what they say or how it effects others.

Answer 8

It's hard to do but I would never stoop to the level of the rude person. They must be very jealous of you to attack you like that. Just remember that it takes a bigger person to walk away then to be rude back to them. Consider the source and maybe it's their lack of their own self confidence.

Best thing you could do is stay away from the as much as possible. Surround yourself with positive people. And your life will be so much more fulfilled. You know who you are and what kind of person you are. Have the confidence in whom you are and smile because they only wish they were half the person you are....................Best of luck to you....................

Answer 9

Be very efficient in how you say stuff to them. No need to do small talks and throw unecessary compliments or being nasty. However, ignoring them is just plain tacky, and you might just be judged as the rude one. Play it with class. It's hard, but the payoff is huge.

Never fight fire with fire, dear. :)

Answer 10

If you are a nurse by pro., you have to face too many rude behaviour with smiling face.Be confident & show it when you make a statement. If the rudeness persists, hit back firmly but with decency.