Sex Question?

Question

Ok me and my guy have been together for 2 years now and recently during sex he's started calling me things like dirty slut and ***** while choking me. He stopped for a while when I told him I didn't like it because he said he was doing it thinking I liked it then the other day he asked me during sex if he could do it again. Why would he all the sudden start doing this?? Is this Weird??

Answer 1

He has a fetish for using certain words. If you really can't stand him using those words, you'll have to tell him. But if you're open to ideas, try responding gently in kind. During sex, call him a dirty, wicked pimp, an animal, a over-sexed schoolboy, or whatever, in your sexiest sibilant drawl.

If he likes to choke you, wear a wide leather collar. He can squeeze that without compressing your neck. If you want to choke him back, use a dog's choke collar.

Answer 2

The dirty talk is a normal thing but the choking is an abnormal occurance especially if it feels uncomfortable to you. Generally its not something you do but some people are into the whole thing like whipping and stuff. If its something your really not cool with then you should explain that to him, you should be able to have sex with the guy and enjoy it.

Answer 3

Not only is it weird he has some problems that need to be delt with. He also lied he said he was doing it cause he thought you liked it that's not true because after you said you don't like he still asked if he could do it. Maybe the sex life need to be spiced up from his point of view, but usually role play or something else like that comes to play not choking.

Answer 4

Your bf isn't acting weird. He's just trying to make things hot for you guys. He thinks that it's good but actually he didn't know deep down inside you, you don't enjoy and dislike it. I felt he watched to many porns and thinks all girls like the guys to call them dirty "names"! Well, pls let him know your concerns again and warn him that you don't like it. If not, you can try to blend into what he wants and see if this time, it works fine for you. You'd probably never know you'll like it too. Anyway, a good chat between you guys will be good.

Answer 5

he's probably watched some porn where this has happened, and now it's a turn on for him. some ppl just like to inflict pain (part of that whole S&M world). sometimes it's pleasurable for the girls, too--the action excites 'em and even helps 'em reach orgasm. pretty dangerous if u ask me. just keep sticking to your guns and saying no. he shouldn't continue to ask/pressure u if u really put your foot down. if he doesn't listen, then u need to find someone else who will respect ur wishes.

Answer 6

some men get off on being in control. Everyone has their sexy fantasy. His, however is extreme. Try to let him express his desire, but while both of you are enjoying it. Instead of choking you, ask if he would like to tie you down to the bed, etc.

Answer 7

Change, try to be more spontaneous, do different things. Hes just getting bored, or could be listening to his buddies, or watching porn. but I have found that a lot of women like that .... only in the bedroom ..though. ask him why.

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Answer 8

He is a dominatrix probably. That is kind of weird but to each his own. If you don't like it tell him to stop or close your legs.

Answer 9

If you do not like what he is doing then he should have enough respect for you to stop. If he wont get rid of him.

Answer 10

Well, he showed You he respects You by asking first.