How do i know how much do i love her? how do i know she is the one i am going to spend my life with? If i love her, will i let her to study overseas or should i ask her to give up her dream and follow me? is letting her go to find her dream a way of loving her or to ask her to stay with me?
2006-11-10 18:29:39 · 17 answers · asked by Peter W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
heres to an old addage (SP?)... if you love something... let it go... if it comes back to you... it's yours....
If she wants to study overseas... and you put the brakes on that... she may wind up resenting you for that... (possibly for the rest of her life)... Sometimes to love someone... you have to do things that you don't like doing... you have to put their best interests in mind...
I can't tell you how much you love her... I don't know... but I do know that you don't want to pressure her into staying... that's a decision she should make entirely on her own...
2006-11-10 18:35:02 · answer #1 · answered by grimmy19812000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People’s individual needs are very important. You cannot ask her to leave her dream and follow you. She can choose to do that, but it has to come from here.
How would you know if you love her? My dear, the answer to this one … only you know it. But if you love someone, you want her to be at her best, you want her to achieve her goals, you want to be the one who encourages her to think big and go for it.
If she is THE ONE …
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If she goes to study, but she still keeps in touch with you and you keep in touch with her … time will let.
I know it’s hard, but if it’s meant to be, will be; don’t push things in a certain direction just because that’s the way you want them to be …. Because soon you will find out, YOU are NOT happy!
Tell her what you feel and be open … but be ready to let go and still keep a smile on your face.
I have learnt that when you let go … it comes back much better (if it’s meant to be)
Good luck!
2006-11-11 02:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Me me me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk it over with her. Ask her this question. Everyone is different. Ask her if she wants you to ask her to stay, and tell her you would, but you want to be supportive. Ask her what is the best way to show your love to her. If she wants to study abroad, and still be together (at a distance) then you should at least try it. But be aware that people change. Education (real life and school) changes one's view of the world. --- this might be wonderful and it might not be.
2006-11-11 02:37:44 · answer #3 · answered by Dawn J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey dear
My thinking is that give freedom to ur love , which has no boundary, no restriction & no formalities & let it be if he/she loves u then he/she will come to back one day. & if it is not then he/she is not perfect match for u, his/her company with u is just a timepass or a formality. So dear allow to her for study becoz study is must & study will help u both to stand on ur feet in future. If u love him then go her parents & told that u want to marry her in future but now her study is must so u would wait her. And if she loves u & u have the quality to do best for her after marriage then she will come to u one day. I know it is hard to allow to go her , but dear understand it that study is must then romance.
2006-11-11 02:46:10 · answer #4 · answered by care 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't present it to her that you will "let" her go. She must be pretty independent and focused to want to do that. Everyone should follow their dreams. She needs to follow through if that is her dream....support her and let her know how important it is to follow her dream and that it will be very difficult to see her go because you love her.
2006-11-11 02:38:41 · answer #5 · answered by T-Bone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her you dont ask her to give up her dreams and follow her where she goes
2006-11-11 02:32:59 · answer #6 · answered by Starlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her set her free.. which means if you've both got dreams, then follows your dreams first and if it was meant to be, you will both be together in the end.
Good luck.
2006-11-11 03:30:11 · answer #7 · answered by happy soul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely let her go. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, right? You should make sure she knows how you feel about her before she does go. She is her own person and should be able to discover things on her own.
2006-11-11 02:34:15 · answer #8 · answered by Allie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this relationship is the one, you must allow her to follow her dreams and if you are meant to be together you will....
2006-11-11 03:39:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa P 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loving her is letting her go. If it's meant to be then she'll come back. Don't cage your love, don't make your love a bind. It will never survive if you try to strangle it.
Even if she doesn't come back, at least you know what love is.
2006-11-11 03:15:50 · answer #10 · answered by sallybowles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋