maid of honor???

Question

My sister asked me to be the maid of honor....she also asked my sister-in-law to be the matron of honor. My sister and I are not close...at all. Should I accept the position? I see her appointing my sister-in-law as an excuse....I mean, there should only be one ______________in law. What do you think?

Answer 1

So she can't have 2 maid/matrons of honor? Why not...it's her wedding, she can do what she wants. I've seen grooms have 2 best men before so it's not exactly unprecedented! If you love her and want to be there for her...accept it. If you're going to be resentful and will make everyone miserable at the ceremony/party, then don't.

Answer 2

I think you should accept the position it is truly an honor to stand up for your sister. The two of you may not be very close but during times like these it's always great to be supportive and involved. Weddings are great and mostly bring the best out in people. Forget about everything else and enjoy this time.

Answer 3

I'm going through the same thing. My sister and I aren't close at all--I've got two friends that I've met in the past year that I'm closer to than my sister.

But I had to ask her to do it to keep peace in my family--and your sister might feel the same way. I knew my sister and entire family would disown me if I chose someone other than my only sister to be my MOH.

Sometimes I can't stand my sister. I've been a better sister to her than she's ever considered being to me. But it's about keeping the peace.

A lot of girls are having two MOH's these days, so it's not like it's unheard of. It's actually becoming more common.

You should accept the position, even though you're not that close. Just keep peace. It's only one day out of your life.

Answer 4

There should only be one Maid/Matron of honor but your sister thinks that since you are her sister you should be the Maid of Honor or you may feel bad. She also feels very close to your sister-in-law so she wants her to be the Matron of honor. I think it's a bit much and that if you don't mind you should graciously back out and let her off the hook and let the sister-in-law be The Matron of Honor". Good luck don't fight with her it's her day.

Answer 5

The wording of the title counts though.
Maid of Honour is a single woman, Matron of Honour is a married woman.

If you and your sister are not close what is the relationship between her and your sister-in-law?
Maybe they have a great relationship and that is why she asked her and maybe she is trying to reach out to you to try and bring you closer.

It's your decision but I would talk to her first and ask her why she wants both of you to do the same role?

Answer 6

I think it's her day and you should stop thinking about yourself. Accept her request and take onboard anything she wants to do, be polite to the other 'attendant' and just enjoy your important job. The thing with some bridesmaids/maids of honour etc is that they forget that they are their to help the bride...make sure her dress is OK, make sure her makeup and hair is right, re-adjust bits so she looks her best for the whole day...it's not about how you look or feel really. Just help her to enjoy her preparations and ultimately her big day. Enjoy.

Answer 7

Obviously, she is trying to become closer to you! How about you? do you want to be close to her? I wish I had a sister. You just don't know how lucky you are to have a sister. Don't miss this opportunity to make some happy memories with your sister.

Answer 8

I had both. It honored both my sister and my best friend.
Accept it. You don't want any regrets down th road.

Answer 9

IT DOESN'T REALLY MATTER IF THERE ARE 2 OF YOU.JUST ACCEPT IT CAUSE IT MIGHT ACTUALLY GET YOU CLOSE TO YOU SISTERS.

Answer 10

she has stretched her arms for you...and all you think about is YOu...your sister sure is unlucky to have a sister like YOU