The guy im with wants to marry me and stuff... And i have loved him for a long time and he tells me he loves me so much but he is a big big *** hole at times. I want to be with him but something is telling me not to.. I have been hanging out with his best friend for a few days now without him and he told me that since he met me (was not with my man at that time) he knew he loved me and every min. we spend together juss makes the love grow. He is such a sweet heart and well im falling in love with him... i feel so bad but when im with him im always laughing and smiling and feel so great and when im with my man we fight and argue but there are times when i feel like im in heaven....... help me please!!!!!!!!
2006-11-10 17:57:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get over it....
2006-11-10 18:02:09 · answer #1 · answered by yu g 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well arguments are apart of relationships. That doesnt mean you should argue all the time. You have to follow your heart. Honesty is the best policy as well because you will only suffer and be unhappy if you remain in a relationship that in the long run isnt right for you. It doesnt mean that the new guy will be a match made in heaven either. But its a chance worth taking over staying with someone who is not good to you on a consistent basis. You deserve a good man. Not a man half-assing it trying to pull full throttle. Good luck with your situation.
2006-11-10 18:04:52 · answer #2 · answered by Wheres the Rum Gone? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to be honest with yourself first. Maybe your boyfriend isnt the answer to your future. But how can his best friend be your future when you havnt even had time to fall in love with him. All the feelings that you are having when being with him, is because its something new and refreshing. I would say break up with the b/f if he is such a jerk and then give your self time to know your self and then check out his best friend. If he the best friend really loves you, then he will wait for you.
2006-11-10 18:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by peaches 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't read the answer I typed the other day did you??? You have The Grass Is Greener on the Other side Syndrome, and frankly it is not!! You need to decide if your relationship is worth throwing away for a maybe which sounds like a nothing to me.. If he is making advances at his hommies girl he is nothing but trouble.. You dump your current boyfriend for him, I guarantee you will be looking really stupid in the end.. there are too many other men to go after if you and your boyfriend are not working out...You are falling in love with the game, the game of sneaking and being mischeivious that's all clear your mind and move the hell on...
2006-11-10 18:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i think if your heart is telling you no about the other guy then just go with what your heart says. And i dont know if you're a christian but if you prayed about him the lord will help you =] it sounds like the other guy is a much better choice! so i would just tell your b/f you feel that every thing is not working out and just tell him that you feel more of a connection with his best friend...and that you hope you can remain friends with him! Best Luck To You.!
Things will def. work out
p.s. remember this ..your not married yet..a break up its just a break up not a divorce
â¥
2006-11-10 18:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by McKenzie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to help yourself.. you need to make up you mind about the guy you want to spend the rest of our life with. this new guy might be able to give you a moment of happiness but you will never know if he will last as long as you and your present bf do.
new things are always fun things. when a relationship gets old, it gets a bit dull. the fire that is once burning so deeply is your heart is as if gone. suddently you will realise that you don't miss him that much anymore. well, that is the truth for most people. when the fire if doused off, what is left is a sense of responsibility. that will keep the relationship going for a long long time to come.
good luck
2006-11-10 18:14:00 · answer #6 · answered by caterpillar 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crystal: I know what I speak of here. Please don't marry your boyfriend. You will go through living hell if you follow through. Also; have a talk with your "new" contact and discuss the consequences for him when your boyfriend finds out you two are an "item" ! Then; break it off with your boyfriend so he can't accuse you of cheating. Just think of it Crystal. Being married to a big a**hole and living for the next 5 or six decades in absolute misery ... so, please dump him for his friend (ex), where you two can thrive from one another ! You are lucky in two ways ! First; you find your boyfriend to be a real jerk and dumping him. Secondly; you found someone who you LOVE to spend time with and who makes you feel appreciated for who you are. Your current boyfriend ... you are not in love with - dump him and go with his friend (ex) . Good luck to both of you - you found happiness !!!
2006-11-10 18:16:59 · answer #7 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
was it the same way when you met your man. things change in a relationship, you both have to work on it. i know it's all good to talk to someone and they claim to understand you. is he there for real or do he just what some booty. hey i'm just asking. It's easy to fall for someone in a emotional state that your in. you are al ready cheating on him emotionally that's how it's all starts. sit back and think is it really that bad or what. remember you don't know the friend all that well either. It's always different when your not in a relationship with them.
2006-11-10 18:13:03 · answer #8 · answered by reemdog 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You're going to have to choose or soon you'll lose both of them. Just stop and think. Ask yourself questions. Who do I love more? Who would I be better with? Am I happier with him or him? Will I be happier with him and him? Which ones nicer to me? Just keep asking yourself these questions and you'll find out soon.
2006-11-10 18:03:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I hate to say it, but Peaches gave the most sensible answer here. IM me if you wanna talk about this, dear.
Your,
Jon
2006-11-10 18:09:21 · answer #10 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you're not married. live life to the fullest. meet as many people as you can. enjoy life and when the time comes to settle down you'll know.
2006-11-10 18:02:28 · answer #11 · answered by KOkoweena 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋