okay heres the score,met a guy online dating site, posted my profile mostly just to see if it would get any hits, was not going to actually talk to anyone thru it, but it got a hit and the guy sounded interesting and so i talked to him, we been chatting regualy for a week now. he wants to meet me, i think its too soon, i'm only really looking for a freind anyhow he knows this, he has been back into my profile and didn't tell he went itno it again, he says that he is honest,trustworthy, not dating anyone, but yet i want to trust him but can i? should i? what should i do? anyone with answers please help me!
2006-11-10 17:41:00 · 16 answers · asked by ♥musiclover♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i told him i wanted to talk to him more first before i would meet with him. & of course i would meet him in a public place! that is if do decide to meet him at all! its just i don't know if he's being a player or an honest guy!
2006-11-10 17:48:45 · update #1
Well... I wouldn't automatically assume that he's a psycho (alot of people scream out psycho and weirdo when you talk about people you meet online... considering that now better than half of the U.S. and England are Internet Connected... It's a stretch to say that just cause someone was on the internet they are a weirdo)...
Although.. I would treat it like a blind date... meet him in a public place (not at your house or his)... Make the arrangements at a conservative time (7-8 PM... Later times may send the wrong signal... or put you in a compromising position once the dinner date is over... You don't want to be crossing a dark parking lot late in the evening with someone you barely know... especially later at night when there are less people around)... Be EXTREMELY careful of any drinks he gets you (when you are not around... Date Rape Drugs are not a thing of the past... and there are still some preditors that use them)... And always let someone know where you are going and when you're getting back... who the person is... what his telephone number (and any information you have on him)....
You can never be too safe... and it's very hard for people (women especially) to be TOO paranoid... remember... you only know this guy based on what he's told you...
Aside from taking steps to be safe... try it... it may turn out to be a worthwhile relationship...
2006-11-10 17:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by grimmy19812000 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't trust someone you don't really know. I talked with a young woman tonight in Phoenix that hooked up with a guy on line 2 weeks ago and she just found out that even though he said he was single he wasn't, married with 2 kids. He said he has his own business and he doesn't. Had her believing he was doing well financially and their looking for him to repo his car. Come to find out she didn't even know his real name. Good thing she talked with someone about him and had a pic. on her cell phone and that someone knew him.Hope that tells you what you can be in for. Just remember we're on line and can say anything.
By the way did you hear about the guy that met a woman on an on line dating service and come to fine out he was a murder? He killed her. It was on court TV and Headline News last week or the week before. BE CAREFUL
2006-11-10 17:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
anyone can sound great online if you do meet up make it a double date and bring a friend or at least meet up in a busy busy place. But I recommend meeting people through people or other ways rather then online. Good Luck!
2006-11-10 17:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by MelC 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should meet him, but I would suggest that you arrainge to see him for the first time in a safe public place during daylight hours, and make sure that a friend or family member knows where you'll be and is expecting you back at a certain time...
2006-11-10 17:45:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
No, just wait a little while longer, event though he may be a nice guy, you have no idea of who he really is, if you want to meet him, I am going to agree with the chick above, make it public, please.
2006-11-10 17:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have any doubt in your mind about meeting him, there is probably a good reason. If he is sincere, he won't be offended if you honestly state that you want to wait a little while longer.
2006-11-10 17:49:06 · answer #6 · answered by mreheather6 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he is pushy about it I would say no. There is nothing wrong with waiting. The longer you wait the more you will probably see more of his true colors. Why put yourself in an uncomfortable or potential dangerous situation if you don't have to. There alot of bad people out there.
2006-11-10 17:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ben V 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
meet him in a public place don't trust him right away. you were already up front about wanting a friend so relax and have a good time.
2006-11-10 17:45:23 · answer #8 · answered by space case 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It might be wise to talk to him a bit more before you meet him...
Make sure you take precautions when meeting him the first time..
Daylight date, public place etc. etc...
2006-11-10 17:45:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Trust your instincts. You sound really responsible by questioning if it is too soon? Be careful, always meet in public, resturant , etc.
2006-11-10 17:46:05 · answer #10 · answered by sugarmonkey47 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋