Potty training?

Question

My granddaughter will be 3 years old next month, and we are having great difficulty trying to potty train her. Anytime the subject is approached, she starts screaming, "No, no, no! We have tried almost everything, even the "singing" potty, to no avail. Any suggestions or tips would be appreciated. Thanks.

Thanks to everyone for all the suggestions. As I said before, we have tried basically everything from bribery, being firm, and letting her wear big girl panties-not changing her when she soiled them to no avail. I feel much better now that I have seen from several answers this is not an uncommon problem.

Answer 1

http://pottytrainingsolutions.com/

http://babyparenting.about.com/od/pottytraining/

these sites should help

Answer 2

It may be drastic but you can explain to her that she should know how to go potty at her age (obviously she does if she's saying No, No, No!) and that if she doesn't want to sit on the potty like a big girl would that you or/and her mom will be throwing away ALL the diapers and she'll have to deal with her own mess. Kids DO NOT like feeling wet/soiled pants, so hopefully this will kickstart her attitude(which it sounds like it is and probably some control issues also). You and her mom are the boss and she should understand that she is very able and mature enough to go to the bathroom like a big girl now. Good luck!

Answer 3

We used bribery for both our kids. For our son, it was Duplo Blocks, our daughter My Little Ponies. We bought both at the second hand store. We let them chose which item they got each time they went.

Also, we let the kids chose their big kid undies. My daughter was really into the Dalmatians, so she had Dalmatian panties. She really wanted to keep them dry. Don't be fooled by the pull-up type diapers, the kids aren't. Mine treated them just like diapers. The same thing with those training panties, the thick kind of cloth panties. It wasn't until they had real undies on that the concept of dry vs wet or worse poopy, was really understood.

Most of all, try to be calm! In exasperation, I asked my daughter if she was going to be the only kindergartner in diapers, she said YES!

Answer 4

my child had this problem till I made them clean themself! It was gross for me to sit there and make him do this but I was at my last straw and was tired of gaging, cleaning the clothes wiping his butt and telling him he is to big for me to keep telling him to go to the bathroom. ( 3 going on 4) So I said your old enough to go to the potty! You don't drink out of a bottle and you understand me! It's time for you to learn to clean yourself, your clothes, the toliet and your body since you refuse to use the restroom on your own.

I kid you not he cried the first time and the second time and I was in the bathroom with him teaching the first two times but I did not help him the third time at all. He was mad and cried because I made him do it the third time all by his self. SURPRISE there was no 4th time! He started going to the bathroom on his own. He every once in a while peed in his pants when he was asleep but he would also clean that trying to hide it from me.

I never let on that I knew he peed in his bed. I simply took his sheets and said thank you for helping mommy change the sheets on your bed. Your getting to be such a big boy. Then I would place new sheets on his bed. Funny thing is that he is 14 now and you know he still will put his sheets in the laundry. Maybe not all his other clothes but he sure does like those clean sheets.

Not that this is the solution, but it also worked on my daughter after about a month of potty training or so I tried this method again (make her claen herself) and in about the same amount of time although she was much smaller she also was potty trained. We bought pull ups for maybe 3 months and then we were home free. She just could't wait to have big girl panties with barbie on them. LOL The only downfall on my daughter is that I have to tell her to bring me her sheets. Good luck

Answer 5

Well,don't allways let her decide if it's a yes or no.The parent has to set the rules and for this time it's a yes.My daughter is 2 1/2.She would scream when i try putting her on the big potty.But no one listened to her screams.While she was screaming,i was talking to her and telling her that she has to.The third day she stoped screaming.The fifth day she did her business.Before that she got very bad urinary infection.She ended up taking a lot of antibiotics which was too much for her and for my pocket.Anyways she is doing very well now.You need to be a little firm with her.

Answer 6

I've always heard that when they get ready you'll know don't rush her and she go on her own or even try taking her into the bathroom when you go to use it so she can see but dont rush it. My daughter was 1 when she stop wearing pull ups because she didn't like being wet.

Answer 7

try rewards and scheduling 5 times a day after each meal and drinks begin with rewards for just sitting on the toilet e.g horse rides tickle games or chocolate choose a reward that she can only have on toilet train occasion then shift the reward to just when she does somthing in it .toilet training happens when the whole familys ready u just hav 2 b strict with schedules keep records

Answer 8

Drop the subject for awhile. She is apparently terrorized by the idea. The frustration level is not good for anyone in the family when it becomes a battle.

I do NOT envy anyone doing potty training /c:

Answer 9

sound like my middle child! nothing seemed to work with her, until my cousin was baby sitting this little girl who was the same age as mine! she was potty train already! my daughter notice this ! after that i never had a problem with her! i think is was b/c SHE decided to do it, not me!! it will only work when they are ready no matter how hard you try!!!

Answer 10

Leave her alone she's obvously NOT ready to potty train.