My sons father cheated, well he said he never toutched her he just talked to her anyways we were split up for a good 8months now hes wanting to get back toghter so im just wondering from other people is it true?
2006-11-10 16:48:20 · 22 answers · asked by troynov17 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I cheated when i was younger, i am 26, i have never and will never do it again. It depends really on the individual.
2006-11-10 16:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Princess ♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello there, I'm sure everyone has a different story to tell, but to me, Respect is a very big issue. If you love some one, and respect that person, why would you ever want to hurt that person?
But, there are all kinds of excuses, LIKE,,,, well it just happened, we were standing there talking, then all the sudden my hand was in her pants, I just don't know how it happened.
My marriage of 28 years, she had a hard time dealing with desires of hot intense sex the kind you can only get with one night stands.... Yes, some people just can't control them selves, so to answer your question from my point of life, YES, once a cheater, always a cheater.
BUT, I am one grain of sand on this planet, many others may have a better story.... I will say this though, when it happened the first time, I fell out of love with her, and I lost a great deal of respect and trust for her, then after it happens a time or two again, you become numb, maybe don't care anymore, or finally get the gutts to stand up and say, NO, I am not going to have this in my life anymore.
I hate to see anyone break up, and when kids are involved, it even makes it tougher, but, if I had it to do all over again, I would have left her the first time, and spent good quaility time with my son, and let her distroy her own life, instead of effecting all our lives. Of course, this is hinn site talking, and we know it's always 20 20 vision.
Really pray about this, if your comfortable with that, try to think in the fact of what is right and what is wrong, and don't let your emoitions make choices for you. I know easier said then done, just try.... Good luck to you and rememeber, nobody is going to take better care of you, than you....
Your friend in Christ
2006-11-11 01:10:26 · answer #2 · answered by caasos 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cheated on my boyfriend about 6 months ago and I will never do it again to him or any other person I'm in a relationship with. It's awful and can be prevented. I honestly did not mean to but things were kind of crazy at the time. I've definitely learned from my mistakes and I was lucky enough to get a second chance. But as far as your question goes, I think it all depends on the person's personality. Some people will cheat over and over again and think nothing of it. And then there are others who simply make mistakes.
2006-11-11 00:53:49 · answer #3 · answered by bri 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you Married??? guess not,,,, well If you didn't have a smoking gun and you have a son that needs to have a father,,, (if he is a good father) I'd give him another chance, if he had some ideas of cheating he has had 8 Month's to see it ain't all that out there and to get it out of his system,,,, If you do take him back the past is the past don't bring it up don't badger him with it,,, but let him know he has to build the trust back,,, Good luck
PS ask for a ring and a date,,,,,before he comes back,,,,, you deserve at least that much
2006-11-11 00:58:51 · answer #4 · answered by S h 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It truly depends on each person's character. Some people cheat because they dont care about anyone but themselves and the ramifications that cheating on their partner might cause, some people find themselves in a sticky situation and maybe if alcohol is involved, they might do somthing they might normally never do... You know your sons father, none of us do... Deep down you know if he is capable or not..... Trust your instinct.... and if you do decide to take him back, keep your eyes open!
2006-11-11 00:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I cheated once and was forgiven after 4 years of it being always brought up and I have never cheated again. It depends on the person if they have matured past that point.
2006-11-11 00:54:20 · answer #6 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not really, i don't think he is a cheater, if he is he will keep going, and he will do it with many more women, If he is then he just realized that you are better than all the women out there. like they say 'the grass always look greener on the other side' until you get closer.
2006-11-11 00:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by Robots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He continues to cheat unless he is mortally sick or dies.
People never give up a habit that works, though they may pretend to change their spots. He may go on a "vacation' from cheating for 6 months or a year or so.
2006-11-11 00:52:37 · answer #8 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true quite often but not always. Some people cheat once and that is all. They feel sorry and never do it again.
2006-11-11 00:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by J T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to answer your question, no its not true. its all about what your heart says, if you can look at him and have him tell you that he didnt do anything but talk to her, and have your heart believe him, then I dont see why you couldnt work it out. You must trust yourself in order to trust him. A trick I would do if I were you, and this is a bit of a risk, is to talk to one of his ex-girlfriends (if you know any) and ask them to be honest with you about him and use that to help you decide.
I hope this helps out.
2006-11-11 00:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by gremlin_98_01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋