Ive been with my bf for a year & am in love with him. The thing is, we have been having trouble with our sex life which is making both of us miserable. We use to have sex all the time, now we barely have sex once a week. We're both in our 20s. I seem to be the one turned off right now (hes not
) & its ruining our relationship. When I talk to my male friends online for long periods he gets jealous & asks if im cheating on him or talking to my "boyfriend". He says he does this bc he feels with the lack of sex he assumes Im interested in someone else. Im not. its causing him to tweak over the smallest things lately. Tonight I worked late and wasnt able to call him until late at night(4 hrs after i said I would), and he got annoyed, saying how unconsiderate I was. I love him but he is acting like a whiney ***** lately. Im afraid my lack of interest & his jealousy in response is going to make me break up with him. I havent been taking my anti dep. routinely, could this be it? thanks!
2006-11-10 16:45:43 · 9 answers · asked by kitty10185 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are talking to males online and not in the mood for sex I would move on if you was my girl. You know the real reason you are not in the mood for sex, so be honest with yourself.
2006-11-10 16:51:16 · answer #1 · answered by Paul S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the sex life is active and then becomes inactive or even diminished, it is a normal psychological reaction to believe that someone in cheating. While this may not be the case or even the circumstances, this is generally the feeling from the partner whose libido has continued. Under these conditions, there are two generally used techniques for handling these situations. In all cases, the communication needs to be apparent and continuous, maintaining honesty in verbally sharing feelings and thoughts.
The first technique is to force your way through the act of intimacy. If one partners libido is not up to previous levels, it may be necessary for that partner to force their way through the physical act for nothing else but to prove their devotion to the other. Insuring the other partner that there is no one else. This may, however, lead to certain insecurities and sometimes physical problems with the partner whose libido is not at previous levels.
The second technique is to schedule times, intermittently, throughout the month. Usually once weekly or every other week for times of intimacy. The trick is to stick to the schedule and not always should it be intercourse. Intimacy includes cuddling, proliferated flirtation, and foreplay; it is not always, nor should it be, about the penetration aspects. In the event that neither of these techniques seem to be helping, it is recommended to seek professional help.
It is extremely important to keep communication open and active, both before and during this process. If there is no communication, it is not likely that either of these techniques will be effective.
2006-11-10 17:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 12:35:06 · answer #3 · answered by sather 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not taking your medicine it could very well be the problem but you really need to try to stay off the computer so much when he wants to spend time with you believe me i know it's hard but that's a little bit inconsiderate and you need to tell him that his insecurity is pushing you away and could be the reason why you don't feel the need to have sex with him if he's always accusing you of somebody else. And sex isn't everything.
2006-11-10 16:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anti deps can affect your sex drive, so go talk to your doctor about it. if it is not, then either you do not want to be in this relationship anymore or you simply need to get more aggressive with sex, if you do then i guarantee it will be alot more fun.
2006-11-10 17:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by jonstanaut 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if you are not interested in sex then he is doing something wrong. what has he done to try and make you interested...........roses........make you a romantic dinner or take you out for one.......a card saying that he loves you. Being in love takes two; you have to work at it.......he can't just expect sex when he wants it.
2006-11-10 16:52:18 · answer #6 · answered by spyder44052 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
depends on the anti depressant but yes they can and do kill all sexual thoughts, as for talking on line with other men, I am not saying it is bad but it is not helping the situation at all. Go to you doctor and tell him what is going on, You may loose your boyfriend if you don't
2006-11-10 16:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there have been a lot of couples break up because of on line friends, i think if i was you i would turn the computer off and go talk to him,
2006-11-10 16:53:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u must seek professional help else its doomed to failure...
2006-11-10 16:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by q6656303 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋