Obviously i punished her and sent her to her room.And i took away privileges.what else i should have done, i feel i was soft.She did said sorry to grandma.She was crying a lot because i told her dad ,my husband ? How can we solve this issue ?
2006-11-10 16:40:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Bust her as*. Parents these days have forgotten how well this worked. Stop and think about the past when parents spanked there kids and didn't have to worry about going to jail for it. Kids were much better behaved then. They had respect for everyone including there self.
This bs that people believe in today is ridiculous. - don't spank your child talk to them about it -
This is why we have so many babies having babies.
Kids killing other kids.
Drug crazed teenagers
School shootings and the list goes on. Parents now days just look the other direction. In stead of correcting their children because they are afraid of the laws.
Well I say if you can't raise them with respect for others and to know whats right and wrong then go ahead and lock there as* up now because that's whats going to happen to them eventually.
When Christmas comes around and grandma buys her that gift that she really wanted don't let her have it. And remind her what she did to grandma.
2006-11-10 17:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by kara25701 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Children need to suffer consistant & immediate consequenses for their bad behaviour. It sounds like you punished your daughter effectively as soon as she slapped her Grandma. There's no need to carry it any further, unless your daughter repeats it.
At 6 years old she won't associate any long term punishment with a single bad act, but will instead interpret it as just punishment for being a generally bad child. In other words, she will forget why she's actually being punished by you, & just reason that she's being punished because she is evil.
That's why you have to get on her case the instant she misbehaves, & punish her consistantly for her behaviour.
If it's your intention to teach your 6yo what is right, or wrong for once & for all, as each issue comes up, I think you will come out a very frustrated parent. You will have to be patient, & be ready to teach your child, & re-teach as many times as is necessary, until he/she gets it.
Try watching an episode or two of Super Nanny. She has a fabulous system for disciplining a young child that really works, & it's neither traumatic for the child or the parent, & when it's done right, it's done with love & free of anger.
2006-11-10 17:04:37 · answer #2 · answered by No More 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to have a talk with your daughter and find out why she slapped her grandma. Then you need to help her to understand that there are other ways to deal with her feelings and that hitting is not acceptable. I don't think you were soft, punishment is ,meant to correct or teach behavior if what you did taught her not to hit then it has filled it's purpose and you have done a good job
2006-11-10 16:52:18 · answer #3 · answered by George M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need you to also have your mother in law have a talk with her. Telling her that hitting was wrong and mean.
You might also try and find out why she hit her. Ok, I know hitting no matter what with a 6 year old is wrong but there might be more to it then her just hitting her for no reason.
Maybe sometime happen to make her think it was ok to do.
2006-11-10 16:51:26 · answer #4 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The issue is solved already. You have already made sure she experiences the consequences of her actions. She is only 6 years old, enough already. You acted appropriately, talk to her again as the first poster suggested after she has had time to sleep on it.
Question: why did she slap grandma?
2006-11-10 16:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by DadOnline 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i think for the most part you already have. you can not now go and add more to the punishment. what you could do is sit her down and tell her that at no time is she to hit anyone, tell her that if this happens again what her punishment will be. i think what you did was a fair punishment.
2006-11-11 15:33:12 · answer #6 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be patient, she's only six. Don't go over the top with punishment . She is sorry already. Maybe the mother inlaw was being an old bag and needs to say sorry too.
2006-11-10 16:50:00 · answer #7 · answered by rubyflats 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You tell her that hitting people is very mean and everytime she slaps somebody like that she's gonna get a spanking and your gonna tell Santa Claus not to leave her anything for Christmas because she's been mean to people. Usually works everytime at this age.
2006-11-10 16:47:57 · answer #8 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her she will have to stay home the next time you go see Grandma
and maybe she will understand that you are not kidding around . She is old enough to know better . You can't let her get away with this behavior .
2006-11-10 16:46:10 · answer #9 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if she does this again she should maybe not b able to play as long or not be able to watch her favorite cartoon or take away her favorite toy away for a day because trust me when their that young a day seems like a week!!!!
2006-11-10 18:54:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋