the "no sex" rule iraq?

Question

I know this is a selfish question, sorry, its never crossed my mind until now.Can soldiers take military girls into their rooms at camp in iraq? or vice versa do they actually care if troops have sex or its just a "rule"? I havn't asked him any questions regarding females or if he has been unfaithful b/c i dont want to talk about negative things while he is over there doing his job for us...of course afraid of heartbreak and its possible, but how possible is it?

oh ya. do u think he would tell me anyways if he did? he is the best b/f i've ever had but of course being a woman & knowing my man is far away for a long time im nervous everynow and then

Answer 1

As a general rule, the military has a no sexual activity policy in any communal living arrangement, regardless of it's location. The point being, you are here to be a soldier in a respectful working environment, not frolic in the land of sexual exploration.

With that said, we'd be foolish to expect that young soldiers (or older ones for that matter) are not interacting sexually. It happens every day even in places where it is not suppose to happen. You need to trust that your b/f is respecting your relationship and not push or question the subject now or ever. It's just not productive. If he is faithful, no questions are necessary. If he is not, you'll know eventually without pursuing the subject and make your choices then.

He could very well be questioning your fidelity as well, do you really want him doing that? Preoccupying his mind with whether you are faithful to him or not? Let this thought of yours go and not give it another thought. Do what you believe is right for yourself and have a little faith he will do what is right for himself. If that includes being faithful to one another, great!

And when he calls home, be positive and supportive. He does need that more than anything else.

Answer 2

Okay....while deployed everyone is under what is called 'General Orders'...more specifically General Order 1A or GO1A... It is basically the order that prevents pornography, alcohol, etc. Some people will try to tell you that having sex is a violation of GO1A - but nowhere in the order does it say anything remotely close.

With that said; if you are married or mess around with someone that is married and someone pushes it...it is punishable under UCMJ - and I did see that happen to someone while I was deployed. For he the most part, other things transform your preoccupation over there, and really sex goes down toward the bottom of the list. It also depends where a person is stationed. Seemed to me that areas with the lower stress levels had more 'couple activity'.

But to turn the answer to your situation; first of all I commend you - you are doing the right right thing by just keeping positive thoughts. I honestly wouldn't worry about these types of things while you two are apart. You are doing the right thing - keep on track.

From my personal experience (a little different because I was the one deployed). He had an understanding that IF something did happen either with him or me that it had nothing to do with us - was just the stress and lonliness. I have a sexual appetite, but honestly all that went away when we hit the ground - and nothing happened the whole deployment. Believe me, he has the same fears you do... But if you keep the communication lines open and stay positive you guys will be just fine.

Thank you for what you guys have sacrificed. The ones that stay behind in my opinion are the unsung hereos...Thank you.

Answer 3

I understand completely...my hubby was there for 14mths. Im also in the military too, but it still had me wondering. What I notices is those who are having sex in iraq are married or were b/f g/f before they went to iraq. The "command" expect it between those who they know were already together. He said there was a little bit of sex besides that...but it wasn't like everyone is sleeping around over there. What made me feel comfortable is when he got back and I smelled his clothes...HAHA who would want to have sex with somebody who smelled thta nasty and was covered in sand? :)

Answer 4

Hopefully that is the last thing on their mind while they are over there.But I don't know if they are allowed to do that or not.I'm sorry. I would think that being over there would be scary and they wouldn' t really think of doing sex. I know I wouldn't:) So just try to see it in the best light that your boyfriend is over there protecting others and standing up for the United States.

Answer 5

Technically, no. There are rules about that. Especially when it comes to two people, one of junior paygrade and the other who is senior to them in rank. That is called fraternization. It is frowned upon completely. No matter what rank they are. Or at least it was when I was in. It can create a 'conflict of interest' for both parties involved. Someone else might be able to go into better detail for you than I. Good Luck finding your answer.

Answer 6

the only army people in iraq that are allowed to have sex is married couples. but i don't think that they are supposed to. it just depends on a person's commanding officers whether they care if they have sex with other army people or locals. if thier commanding officers don't care then they won't get into any trouble. but anything is possible, this is wear you have to have trust.

Answer 7

We have the "no sex" rule in the navy too. Somehow, it seems a lot of the females get knocked up during every cruise.

Answer 8

they can have members of the opposite sex in their rooms however you are sex is a no no. most units have a curfew of 10pm or midnight and other units have many other rules. still some units allowed spouses to share rooms together even though there is still a no sex policy.

Answer 9

I spent nine years overseas, no way a non military person would be able to get near the tents or sleep quarters. When I was in they would give the guys salt peeter which prevented erections.

Answer 10

If the girls consents, of course. If it's meant to be and you really like the guy, write him often telling him about your day and an instant when you thought of him.