I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months earlier today due to trust issues and the fact that he's a little overprotective. But the thing is, I don't know how long I can last like this. Should I get back together with him, or should I just wait. Please, I need advice on this! Guys, you answer too. I want to hear this from your perspective.
2006-11-10 16:26:44 · 15 answers · asked by beautiful_dork12 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He has already called me once after the break up. While talking to him in the first place, he was literally in tears, and it killed me to do it, but it was what felt right to me at the time. That second time that I talked to him though, he acted as if nothing was wrong even though it was MAYBE an hour later. In fact, he acted like nothing had happened at all.
2006-11-10 16:32:32 · update #1
Also, (one last thing) it's not that I don't trust him, it's that he doesn't trust me. I hang out with a lot of guys, I mean, I have a lot of guy friends. I talk to them, and he starts freaking out. I got my friend's phone number, because I wanted to literally call and ask him about the stupid algebra homework, and he starts freaking out again saying that I'm too busy getting other guys' numbers to pay attention to him.
2006-11-10 16:36:50 · update #2
Be careful with the overprotective type, they sometimes are abusive if you let the relationship progress too far. You need to realize that you deserve someone really great, if he doesn't measure up then don't waste your time. It'll be hard being without him but it's better to be alone and to be with someone who you're not meant to be with.
2006-11-10 16:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by millexuan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what's changed since earlier today. Have the trust issues evaporated? Is he promising to be less overprotective? What do you mean, you don't know how long you can last like this. If the issues were serious enough to break up over, why do you want to get back together with him?
Give yourself a little time to get over it, then find another bf that you can trust and who will give you the freedom you need. If your guy was overprotective at this stage, think what he'd be like if you were engaged or married. You've have a jealous husband on your hands and your life would be miserable.
You need to trust yourself, give yourself a little time to develop as a person, and build your self confidence before you go shopping for another bf.
2006-11-10 16:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by old lady 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to come back to him i frankly tell you why do you need the opinion of others? Thats why i guess your boy friend is overprotective. Give him a chance to explain why their was trust problems or if it was on from your side expalin him.Trust is created and preserved with each other by discussing even small issues with each other . Discuss it with him when you both are in good mood which will not make matters worse but ispite help you. Well as it has been 7 months he might have found someone else...but sit with him and tell him that you really apreciate and still love him and he might come forward saying that he has the same feeling for you and leave the other person if incase he fell for someone else.Do not suspect him just talk to him and find out. true love can always meet but trust him and win his trust too. Best wishes my firend . god bless you both.
2006-11-10 16:39:34 · answer #3 · answered by kirtik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too few details. Yes, people can learn from their mistakes and change. But if you or he broke each other's trust, it's a mark of your own self worth (or lack of it) that you want to get back together. Is he REALLY the best you can do? The ONLY person that will show you affection is someone who screwed with that affection in the past?
Like I said, maybe he changed. You don't give enough info. But you better reflect hard and long on whether he has changed, or you simply wish he has changed. If it's the latter, you're in for a world of hurt - better to be alone, better still to find someone new and get on with your life. Just some thoughts.
2006-11-10 16:38:42 · answer #4 · answered by ZenPenguin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Without trust there isn't too much of a relationship so if you know by getting back together with him it's still gonna be alot of trust issues then i would say no. If you feel like you can go into it and learn to trust him then yes.
2006-11-10 16:34:26 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should wait...being with someone who is overprotective breeds grounds for many miserable times and can lead to other problems. You both need to work out the trust and insecurity issues on your own. Sounds like your boyfriend may be too insecure with himself to be in a relationship and depending on what triggered his over protectiveness you may need to ask yourself are you ready.
2006-11-10 16:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by jjewel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are the trust issues that he was cheating on you?? cuz if so, then you made the right choice, don't worry, the feeling will pass, but if he's a little overprotective, just ask him to give you a little more space and see what you two can work out..
2006-11-10 16:30:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stick with your decision, because you did it for a reason and would it solve anything if you turned back now. You obviously wanted something to change so you have to do something different to get different result. The beninning is hard find things to occupy your time.
2006-11-10 16:33:27 · answer #8 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't trust him,then don't get back with him. No one NEEDS a boyfriend,you can survive without someone that you don't trust. Good luck.
2006-11-10 16:32:11 · answer #9 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time. I know some girls find it hard to be single but it can be a time when you can really get to know you if that makes any sense. When you are happy being you than you really have something good to bring to a relationship.
2006-11-10 16:31:32 · answer #10 · answered by lil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋