my mom just all of a sudden decided she doesnt trust me. and she started cussing me out and told me to go downstairs and started throwin stuff. and i told her i wanted to go live with my dad but she told me i couldnt and i have to fend for myself for food now. im 14. i just want to go with my dad but he lives across the country. i dont know what to do.
2006-11-10 16:22:19 · 10 answers · asked by Just wonderin' 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
call your dad and talk to him about it. Also wait until your mom has calmed down and then try to talk to her again
2006-11-10 16:25:58 · answer #1 · answered by space case 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious what happened to cause her to "all of a sudden" not trust you. The fact that you're 14 probably is the reason. However, be careful what you wish for. If you want to go to your dad's make sure that you prepare yourself. It's not going to be a vacation and things might not be any better there. I think you should talk to your mom and mend things before you make any decisions. Find out what's making her act this way. Most mothers just want a discussion with thier child. Just to find out what's going on in thier life. Open up to your mom a little bit and she'll trust you more. Before you go packing and taking off across the country, remember this phrase "The grass isn't always greener on the other side." Good luck!
2006-11-11 00:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a tough situation. Why doesn't you mom trust you? You have to talk to her about what has given her that impression. I have a 15 yr old SD and we have been having trust issues with her lately. While you may be allowed by your state law to choose where to live, if you threaten the dad thing often, it will lose its power, and also, you are still the kid.
Like another answerer said call you dad and talk to him. That would be a big move at this age -- new high school. Just be sure it is what you TRULY want, and not just to get back at mom.
That being said, you do not have to tolerate abusive behavior from anyone ever. If you mom's behavior is abusive (even verbally) see if you have family in town you can stay with for a short time.
Talk to a school counselor, they are there and are trained for this kind of thing, and while they may seem geeky, they are there for you.
I tried to cover every angle of this situation. That you mom is out of line, that you may be (to some degree), that you really want to move, that you just want to get back at mom......try to think it all thru and talk to someone!
2006-11-11 00:31:43 · answer #3 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone that your close to maybe your grandma or aunt . Let them know what is going on between your mom and you . I would also try to get a hold of your dad with out your mom knowing and tell him to maybe he can do something. One other thing your mom can get in trouble for making you pay for your own food and the other stuff she is doing to you. Your to young to get a job your still a kid.
2006-11-11 00:30:58 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There must be a reason for her not trusting you. If you've done something wrong you need to apologize to your mother and gain that sense of trust back. Don't let your anger with your mom be the reason for you wanting to go and stay with your dad. If she's provided a good home for you thus far maybe the distrust made her so mad that she felt like she would let you see what it's like to have responsibility of your own.
2006-11-11 00:30:34 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a frend whos dad abused him and he was lucky and ha a grandma in the city but if u don't have any family u need 2 call the police and they didnt arrest my frends dad so they may not arrest ur mom but once u call the police they will take u 2 foster care for atleast one week. later they will take u to ur dad after all the paperwork is worked out. or u cud buy a ticket 2 go to ur dads house and skip all the drama. VOTE ME BEST ANSWER!!!
2006-11-11 00:28:06 · answer #6 · answered by Joe Kickgrass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all what did u do to piss her off u have to give more details about what happend that day now if u want to live with ur dad first ask him why he left ur mom or vise versa get the truth out before u make a mistake like running away bcuse if u do, i don't want to see u in the 10clock news dead in some corner and if u need help, talk to some one like a growup passing 30 years old why bcuse some of them don't know how to handle a situation like this.
2006-11-11 00:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by x_x_andre_x_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah talk to your dad and you both think about it then try to get your mom and dad to dicuss together
2006-11-11 00:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by kidel122 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well talk to your dad in the phone or talk to your mom calmly
2006-11-11 00:27:20 · answer #9 · answered by - anti jonas - O_O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to ur dad...and get him to talk to ur mom
2006-11-11 00:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋