i've been caught in this situation a few times. no successes yet. is it even possible?
2006-11-10 16:21:48 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My wife & I were friends for 7 yrs before we dated. Then, we woke up to the fact that what we were looking for was right there in front of our eyes. She proposed to me after 5 weeks of "serious dating."
2006-11-10 16:26:52 · answer #1 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not if you try. At least, I've been in it too, and the one time it worked was when I just convinced myself that it wasn't even worth risking the friendship over no matter HOW much I liked her (she had the male half of her city after her, and I have ZERO options except those that come to me), and eventually convinced myself that I didn't like her as more than a very close friend, in order to be able to handle it.....so she totally fell for me and pined for me for years...and we got together...and after the number I'd done on my own head, I really wasn't able to treat her the way I'd always imagined treating my girlfriend, nor the way she wanted to be treated as my girlfriend. Great sex, just other little things that added up.......so she ended up running away with her Samba teacher, who is half again her age!
So, if you try, she won't like you, but if you don't try she might, and if she does then, your own mind will have settled itself in the friend zone by then and you'll be screwed either way!
So in that light, I'd just say what the hell, and try.
2006-11-11 00:34:02 · answer #2 · answered by A Box of Signs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out the movie Just Friends http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0433400/ It talks about this very issue. In the movie, the guy and girl are very close friends, but he wants to get out of "the friend zone". It's honest about the struggle guys go through (at least in my own experience) when we find ourselves in this situation. If only real life relationships could have the Hollywood ending.
2006-11-11 00:33:22 · answer #3 · answered by Eastern US Guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have you just have to be your self and care about that person it is hard but you can do it some time it work out and some time it dont but you will not look at your life down the line and say why did't i...
2006-11-11 00:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by kmami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it sucked big time we would have been better friends now its not possible.
2006-11-11 00:28:36 · answer #5 · answered by dan221racing 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend has.
We were friends for over a year before we started going out.
We've been together for 9 months now.
It's great knowing the person first before you start having a relationship. A relationship based on a friendship is the best kind.
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2006-11-11 00:27:18 · answer #6 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋