I really like this girl and we dated for a little while but we had to break it off cause i moved but i still like her alot enough to consider a long distance relationship. but its kinda an issue when we are 2069 miles away. and yes i counted you do that when you love someone enough. anyway the point is, is there anyway to make this work?
2006-11-10 16:18:21 · 17 answers · asked by lightsabre91 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you would know the best if it is going to work. The two of you have to work to make it happen.
2006-11-10 16:22:21 · answer #1 · answered by spyder44052 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships usually do not work out. it is so difficult to keep up with one that lives several states away. Wouldnt you like to hold her? touch her? kiss her? drive 20-30 minutes instead of 20-30 hours to go see her? If i were you, since this girl does sound very special to you, break if off now, keep her as a friend because friendship is indefinatly better than nothing. Find someone who is closer to where you live so you can actually be with her, go out with her, see her whenever you want without having to go buy a plane ticket. The reason most of the times they dont work out is because it is just so hard to be without that person. They are thinkin your cheating on them because they arent there and your thinking that they are cheating on you because you are not there, which can leads to fights, which leads to a nasty break up which im sure neither of you want. Either that, or the other person actually is cheating on you, but you live your life like a fool because hey, you'll never find out right? But, on the other hand, i do believe if two people love each other enough to never want to leave each other or be with another person, then i believe it can work out. Of course its going to be hard at first, but if it was meant to be, then it will be. This will take effort on both of your guys's part, it is difficult keeping up with a long distance relationship but if you two really love each other, try to make this work. Good luck
2006-11-11 00:24:55 · answer #2 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult but if you both are dedicated and willing enough, you can make it work. It takes a lot out of you both and she has to put just as much into it as you do, otherwise it won't work out. Try to plan to see each other every few months or so if you can. One time she comes to you, the next you go to her. Lots of talking on the phone, love letters, and e-mails. And above all, trust...it's hard trusting someone in a long distance relationship. My husband and I were long distance for about two years before he couldn't take it anymore and moved to be with me (before we were married). You never know so if you want to go through with it and she wants to give it a go, then by all means, try it out...maybe it'll work out for you guys like it did for me and my husband. Best of luck!
2006-11-11 00:25:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work but it will be very very hard. I am dating a girl that is a long distance from me for the second time the first time we dated was 13 years ago. Its working but it takes a lot of work. Remember the most important thing in a relations ship is not Trust, Friendship or Sex. The most important thing is tolerance. With a lot of tolerance you can overcome anything...
2006-11-11 00:26:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is kinda a toughie, it could work if you both want it to. Plan times when you guys can visit each other, the phone will be your new best friend, handwrite letters to each other (it's silly but fun) your not allowed to talk about anything on the letters on the phone. Watch the same movies and talk about it. The point is to keep the connection alive, if you that then it can work.
2006-11-11 00:23:53 · answer #5 · answered by SexyVixen255 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do either of you ever plan or desire to move closer to the other? If not, I would let it go. If so, pursue it. Long distance relationships can work, and can be good for you, but not forever. Think about what both of you want for your futures and if it includes being in the vicinity of each other, go for it.
2006-11-11 00:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by 10timesalady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's important that she feels the same as you do. If so, go for it! But long distance doesn't last forever. Somehow, if things work out, someone will need to look for a new address.
2006-11-11 00:27:16 · answer #7 · answered by Chiky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can work. Two of my best friends live over 1000 miles apart. But they have dated for very long time, are planning on getting married and such. It is still very hard on them, and I think that if they hadn't been together for so long then they would not still be together.
2006-11-11 00:25:55 · answer #8 · answered by Jamir 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe long distance relationships can work if boht patries are willing to try....there are airplanes and week-ends and holidays that can be spent together. Unless she is never willing to move or you are unable to do so then maybe not for the long term
2006-11-11 00:24:27 · answer #9 · answered by dawn-h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can make it work.
I was about 2000 miles away from my boyfriend too and we lasted almost 4 years like that . 3.5 years now we are together for good it's been 2 years. We're getting married next year.
If you both want it to work - you can
2006-11-11 00:39:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋