she only listen to her dad, not ME.helppp????
2006-11-10 16:14:18 · 17 answers · asked by rose d 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Get stern and have dad back you up. Punish her each time it happens and take back control. It will be much easier to get this under control now than later.
2006-11-10 16:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I found that my children only repeated what they heard. First you listen to yourself. You cannot realistically expect your child to do what you recommend, if, you are doing what you say not to do.
If you are not the source of her vocabulary, then you have to find who is. If it is someone close, like her dad, then you need to have a talk with her dad. Some dads are not around their children enough to know their impact. Make him realize children are mirrors of behavior they see, and language they hear.
If dad will not change while around children, and even if he does, you need to explain why some words are OK, and others not. You only need to go into the detail that works. Save more explicit details for as the child matures.
I found it helped to explain that some words work in some places, they just get you into big trouble in others. No one wants their child to have the teachers against them from the start. Some words will do just that. Make sure dad remembers his school experience. Make sure your child sees that using the wrong words will make her have to do a lot more homework, get worse grades, get punishment, and lose some friends. If she realizes that using some words will make life a lot worse, a lot more difficult all around, she will stop. Knowing school will be real hard, and friends will be real hard to find, and without a lot of praise and joy, works better to guide children than just punishment at home. Social pressure works. But, you have to help your daughter know what these words will do, to get her in trouble.
She needs enough attention for doing good things, that she won't be seeking attention from doing the wrong stuff. Wanting someone to pay attention is a big cause of disruption. Or sometimes failing at what the child thinks adults wants, causes them to do what's wrong, just to get you to spend time with them.
I knew my daughter understood the situation when one day after first or second grade she came home with a story. She said, "Mom John got in trouble today for swearing in school." "Oh dear, I said, that's too bad." "Yes, she said, the teacher didn't know that he couldn't help it because his dad is a farmer and that's just what farmers do." Us being farmers, she associated swearing with farmers for her dad swears about the crops, the hogs, the prices, the weather, well, you get the idea.
They have to learn that inappropriate things are said by many people, but that it is not worth the trouble you get in, by following others.
2006-11-11 00:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by Dee M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time that you let her know that you are also in charge. I am a avid fan of the NANNY on tv, not the Fran Drescher one, but the British one. You can get a small stool or sturdy box, flip it upside down to make a time out chair. This is where you have to put her when she is FRESH and then kneel to her level so you are on her level, if you will, and explain it to her, why she is on the chair, and why she needs to listen to you as well. For the first few attempts, let her dad also join in the talk, but keep quiet, but to be ther on knees to be present, but you do all the talking...
Good luck, and trust me, I have seen it work many times, just be persistant, do not let her bully you, or she will win control and that is NOT her place to have.....
Guyster/Bubba
2006-11-11 00:21:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
COMMUNICATION! After all it's not your 6 year old child's fault it's her surrounding, remember children are an image of their atmosphere and it's your job as the parent to set the right example. Good luck!
http://www.bu.edu/education/caec/files/10tips.htm
From a single mother of a 7 year old.
2006-11-11 00:26:10 · answer #4 · answered by klynna 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to assert yourself. Start off by saying.. " Where did you hear such a nasty word?" When the child sasses you or doesn't listen, that's DISRESPECT. Tell the child that she's being disrespectful, and ask her what type of person disrespects others.
2006-11-11 00:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by J G 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her that you love her and when she dont listen to you it makes you feel bad so ask her 2 listen 2 u and if she dont take away stuff till she does good luck
2006-11-11 01:08:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start taking away privileges for every episode of fresh mouthing. When she realizes you are serious she will straighten up.
2006-11-11 00:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
her dad and you need to be on the same page when it comes to parenting, if you tell her no and she goes to her dad and he tells her yes, then she will always know that you are the bad parent and he is the good parent and that she can geta away with anything with him. and she will treat you like crap.
2006-11-11 00:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by ang. 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not ever scold her let her listen to her dad. For few days do not tell her anything and let her do whatever she does(ofcourse have to tell her if its something dangerous) she'll doubt why my mom ain't telling me off for anything! you scold her more and say NO NO NO .She'll do the opposite. just love her without scolding amd she'll show you what you want her to do.
2006-11-11 00:21:02 · answer #9 · answered by kirtik 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Children learn sarcasm and FRESH sayings from their surroundings. Do not react or WORSE, OVERreact. just politely and quietly tell her she is
"using her words wrong".
2006-11-11 00:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by dbzgalaxy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋