how to make my daughter study. I know she is brainy but she does'nt takes her XII class studies seriously.

Answer 1

always a problem for children today..
there are too many factors that took away her interest specially with our world today.
have a mutual conversation with your daughter, have a honest and understanding approach, ask her, why she lost her ways of studying well nfact shes smart? remind her, it wouldnt mean youre brilliant then theres no more need to study...
if she talks to you, thats great.
but if she wont, something is bothering her, too many hidden emotions that you cant see behind her mask and her role as your daughter.
then, try the positive reinforcement, like a reward system,
do offer her alternatives when she get a high grade and is seen studying well with good results, a reward is given, up to you, a gift she always wanted to maybe will do, anything you know she would love to have. in that way it wll give her a driving force to achive something, instead of wandering around and doing some school stuffs for the heck of going to school. you have to give her the motivation of studyng.
as mother always listen and be sensitive to what happens to your kids, dnt make a conclusion for when they speak to you they are a different person... when you ask them if ther fine... if they answer yes.. it wont neccessary mean that way, they kept and hide secrets inside them to be hidden from you.
constant frendly conversation of your kids will improve them to go to you have a conversation and have a good counceling.
then most important of all, show her that she is of importance to you. all she need is love and the attention of it. most childrens psychologcal problems root to such lack of love, attention and importance.
mutuality. listen. and be fair.

Answer 2

You can't make her study but often it's because a student doesn't know how to study or where to begin. In other words you need a system.

How can you start to build a house without a plan? You wouldn't know where to start so you don't start. It's the same with studying.

I found a great way to study in a book written by an 'A' student. It's called 'Studying For Exams Made Simple' and I think you can still get it at www.college-study-skills.com Just click the 'how to study' button in the nav bar.

Hope it helps.

Answer 3

Too much pressure would work like a reverseosmosis. Stop pressurising her. 12th standard girl is old enough to be a friend of her mom. Treat her as your friend and talk to her on these lines. She would be more amenable to a friend's counselling than the mother's approach.

Any 12th standard student would take the studies seriously and so would be your daugher. Her method of approach may be different which you are unable to understand. So approach her as a friend and you would know what is working in her mind.

Answer 4

What about using the "carrot method" ? Reward her for work well done and be encouraging; focus on the positive and downplay the negative- i.e. never say: " You got ONLY 90 % , You should get a 95 ." Instead say : " That's good , you got a 90 %. I know next session, you'll get another higher line of 9". Use constructive criticism and don't forget to do it with LOVE.

Answer 5

positioned your daughter in a non violent difficulty. Get those human beings out of your place! What do you recommend which you at the instant are not allowed to prepare dinner or circulate around freely?! that is your place, suitable suited? you're making the regulations. you are the girl of the abode. you are the mummy. while it contains your toddler, you are the boss! call a legal expert and discover out information on the thank you to legally get those human beings out. call the police in case you're able to desire to. Your daughter possibilities up on your sadness. while you're modern technique psychological torture, she will have the potential to be harm with the help of looking at you harm! Divorce is puzzling yet this sounds like an unusual situation.

Answer 6

i was 2, i am intellegent but i never studied in 12, so i got less marks n here im, though u cant force her as she is old enough 2 understand, n u cant scold her, cal her and talk to her tht how u know tht is very intellegent and how she has made u proud all these years and u wnat her to suceed in her life, tell her the benefits of it, how she will feel when she comes 1, etc etc, but tell her to study just bcoz u r saying so, im damn sure she'l understsand, all the best

Answer 7

You cant force her to study really. My teacher said that when her son was in school, he never studied he was all smart and everything. He never ever studied but he payed attention in class the day before the test/quiz especially if the teacher was doing a review.

Answer 8

What is her plan aftre 12th ? Don't force her for studies but simply show her the options for ONCE only. Tell her that if she want to study in good college, good people..........she need to get good marks.........tell her that if she won't get good marks she will not get admission in any of reputed college and she wont get good college life........